Custody 7 month old

Answered 4 years ago

So I told my partner we have to separate. Whether he thinks he is or not he's quite emotionally abusive and rude to my children to a previous marriage but we have a baby who is breastfed. He thinks that 50/50 care is reasonable and the child is old enough to stop breastfeeding. He was initially making threats I'd never see the baby again, but now that's changed to 50/50 care. I've booked mediation and have a family lawyer appointment and stuff but it's in a months time. I just don't think that's a reasonable request at this age. Yes when the child is older but not while they are a breastfed baby. Has anyone been in this situation and what did it look like? Is 50/50 care of a baby really a reality?

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4 years ago

Get an avo againsthim the minutehe makes another threat. Call the cops.

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4 years ago

Oh just jump on the bandwagon and make it harder for people that are needing the protection... although an avo is only a piece of paper

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4 years ago

Actually it is recommended to get one if you have a history of abuse, and threats begin on separation.
This is from the police, family lawyer advice and women's refuge hotline.

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4 years ago

Definitely no chance of overnights that young- look up some breastfeeding advocates pages like badass breast feeder and pinky McKay, I’m sure there’s been articles shared about this.

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4 years ago

Having just been through family court it is highly unlikely that he will get more than a 5 nights a fortnight and that is if you agree to it or he fights for it. There is Buckley’s of him getting 50/50 unless you agree to it and it’s highly likely with the baby breastfeeding and being so small that he will get anything more than maybe a couple of evenings without overnights and maybe one or two overnights a fortnight. But they will take into account what is in the beat interests of the child not neccessary what his demands are

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4 years ago

Also mediation is a complete waste of time if they are going in with threats and abuse. Been there and done that with an abusive lying ex wife ... got no where after 7 sessions. Complete waste of money! Lawyer up and get Straight to court

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4 years ago

You can’t go to court without mediation. Plus you look like you are no even attempting to agree on anything if you don’t attempt mediation

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4 years ago

A lot of people attend mediation without intending to actually participate. Yes you need to go but if it’s clear the other party is not there to participate you will have an initial then one group and get the certificate for court.

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4 years ago

He was making threats, stating that you'd never see your child again? That's rather concerning...

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4 years ago

As a mum I think that even if he wasn't breastfed 50/50 is not a good arrangement for such a young child. The court will look at what is in the child's best interest. Don't talk about what YOU want. Talk about what you think is best for your child and why. Good luck!

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