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Shy kids
Answered 4 years ago
My son claims he’s shy (it’s something his dad labeled him with when he was younger) but I just see it as being rude. Like when we have guests at our house I expect him to at least say hello then he can continue doing whatever he wants. He refuses. Says he’s shy and runs off to his bedroom. It’s so frustrating to deal with. He’s not on the spectrum or anything and all I ask is that he be polite. Would love some suggestions on how to help him because at the moment I’m just getting frustrated with him. Thanks
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4 years ago
Don’t allow him to be rude. Persist with making him acknowledge guests. My children are shy but not rude.
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4 years ago
If you let them be rude it's definitely bad parenting.
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4 years ago
How do you know he isn’t on the spectrum it’s called a spectrum because it’s so wide. Some kids are so introverted that they get anxiety. Ease him into it, and give him time.
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4 years ago
My step kids are like this. I find it extremely rude too as they are fully capable of speaking and interacting and its pisses me off. Their father won't say or do anything about it, it's as if he doesn't see them flat out ignore people when they are being spoken to. Wish I had some advice, I basically just added to your gripe. Good luck
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4 years ago
Just remember their behaviour doesn't reflect on you.
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4 years ago
Just step back from it. If their parent doesn't care then don't let it ruffle your feathers. There will be a point where it embarrasses him. Until then, address it each time "gosh I'm sorry little Brutus was so rude and ignored you like that". Dad may take notice.
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4 years ago
I think you have to preemptively discuss this with him and again before guests arrive. On the spot is hard for him to change as he's probably embarrassed more. Reward him if he does, and also explain how others feel when he ignores them by getting him to imagine how it would feel if he went to someones house he was excited to see, and they ignored him. I'm with you mum, as I have taught my kids this,but it can be hard for them too. Dad labeling doesn't help bit it isn't the cause, it's just giving him to vocab to be defensive this case I honestly believe