Do more!

I work two days a week at the moment and we have a teen and a toddler. He does the dishes every night, lawns and maintenance stuff on the house. About once a month he scrubs the bathroom and he might vacuum sometimes. I do all the washing, grocery shopping, cooking and bill paying and stuff. I do most of the running around with kid stuff. He works full days and Saturday every few weeks. No complaints here - he works hard and is not generally that messy. It’s my teen who doesn’t pull their weight around here 😂

My husband does his own clothes washing/ ironing, and is the one that washes the bath towels. He'll stack the dishwasher sometimes and wash dishes on the weekend. He gives the kids their bathes, and takes one of the kids to swimming lessons. He's started putting away kids clothes occasionally too, although I have to fix that up sometimes as he can't seem to tell their clothes apart haha. I'm a SAHM and appreciate that not everything is left to me to do. I have the biggest mental load though, remembering school stuff and birthdays etc.

I agree that we train them to turn into this by being the kind of people we are. If I could go back in time I would have laid things out differently to bring with. It's like telling a child not to do something then letting them do it every so often, give them a finger and they take the hand. My husband does little and I work though he earns more, I do everything for our family and kids. With no help it's tough on everyone as I know everyone is desperate for a break, but me the most. He cooks sometimes but not enough and no cleaning.

I’m a SAHM too, so I do majority of the domestic work which I insist upon. My husband does help though. He will cook on weekends. We will do dishes together. Sometimes he’ll clean the floors as well.

Depends on the guy. This was me, then I started working again and he still didn't help. it caused alot of arguments & it was a very stressful time. If they think they can get away with it they will, it was like having an extra child, builds resentment & then you start to lose respect for them.