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Experiences with delaying school?

Answered 12 months ago

My daughter was born at the end of December and I’m not sure whether to hold her back a year (so she starts prep at 6yrs) or send her at just over 5yrs. Has anyone had any experiences? She is meant to start 3 yr old kindy next year, but doesn’t seem ready yet (not ready for toilet training, not so good at communicating/listening). She just seems so much younger than my son was at the same age. Has anyone held their children back? If so, when did you hold them back and how did it go? I’m not sure whether to try to send her to 3yr old kindy next year and then repeat it the following year if we decide to hold her back? Thoughts please!

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12 months ago
I’m a teacher and have never heard a parent regret holding back. I have had many parents wish that they had done it. It’s a huge difference between being really ready, or spending their school lives playing catch up. Remember some countries don’t start formal schooling till 7yo and they are some of the best schools in the world (Scandinavian countries)

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12 months ago
Send her, ask the teachers their opinion, and give her another year if need be. I sent my to school just as she turned 5 and ended up repeating her (and moving schools too)- she did ok with the work, but really struggled socially. Now she is doing great! If ever in doubt wait until the year they turn six. I know I won’t be sending my youngest until he turns 6. An extra year never hurts.

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12 months ago
My son did two years of 3yo kinder because I was undecided at first. His kinder teacher recommended another year. You won’t regret starting them late but you may regret sending them early.

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12 months ago
Send her and if it doesn't work out, keep her home until the next year.

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12 months ago
Both of mine were born at the end of the year and while I sent them at under three and a half, they did two kindy years, then school the year they turned 6. I don't think you can hurt them by delaying, even if they are academically advanced, the social and emotional experience is vital.

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12 months ago
I think that when a decision like this is to be made, you have to go with your gut. Nobody knows your child better than you :)

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12 months ago
Id say keep her home for another year, my 8 year old is only now in year 3 coming to terms with it all. She is a year younger then everyone and struggles so much its terrible! She thinks she is stupid because she compares herself to her peers, which of course isnt correct as they are all a year older then her! I wish i had kept her back a year, now im considering having her repeat year 6 before going onto high school.

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12 months ago
💕Hugs to your daughter and to you

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12 months ago
Sorry but could you be underestimating her?

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12 months ago
No, I’m not underestimating her at all. She is an adorable and clever little girl but because of her birthdate she will be a year younger than some of the other kids if I send her at 5yrs. It’s a serious consideration.

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12 months ago
Sure is. Go with your gut babe x

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12 months ago
My daughter is the eldest in her class svdvits a real advantage.

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12 months ago
Sent all 4 kids to school few months shy of turning 6 best decision ever. They are so much more prepared maturity wise inc. social skills. They had kids in their grade 4 turning 5 and you can tell their was a few struggles in all aspects of learning and transitioning to big school.

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12 months ago
I wouldn't go on birth date, but your own instinct, guided by professionals like daycare and kindy educators - they have amazing insights.

QLD rules are 4 turning 5 from July 1-June 30. My DS is before Christmas. He went on time, but if he'd been born a few months later I'd have kept him back. DD is closer to June, in kindy now & I won't keep her back. I'm not happy she'll be one of the youngest in her class but I'm certain she's ready. A friend is considering keeping her child, who's older than DD, back, and that's something only she can decide. It's a tough choice.

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12 months ago
I have a similar issue, daughter born in december, much younger then my other children at the same age and issues with hearing and speech. I spoke to the school about it all, i was also thinking about repeating Kindy if needed, the school advised sending her to Kindy, see how she goes then on to Pre-Primary and if she was struggling then, we could repeat Pre-Primary rather then Kindy, the reason for this is PP is 5 days per week instead of 5 days per fortnight for Kindy, so repeating her in PP gives more ‘bang for your buck’ in terms of lots of extra focused time on learning and catching up, i decided to go with this plan, she is in Kindy now, and so far she has been doing great! Infact her teacher is soooo good with supporting her speech its as though she is in Speech Therapy 5 days pf! My little 4 year old is literally the smallest and youngest child in the whole school (out of 750 students!) we had to get her uniform specially made, i was worried about her being the ‘baby’ of the school and getting lost in it all, but actually the whole school is behind her!! She has a real sense of belonging and has become a bit of a sassy little thing 🤣

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12 months ago
I sent my kids earlier and shouldn't have done it.

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12 months ago
why not wait until she is 5 and see where she is at then?

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12 months ago
Isn't prep when they turn 5 that year ? Or is it different state to state 🤔

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12 months ago
In Queensland if they are born in the beginning of the year it’s when they turn 5, if they are in the second half of the year it’s when they turn 6. Every state varies on ages.

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12 months ago
I delayed my youngest son. He is an April baby. He went to kindy when he was 3 turning 4 and his kindy teacher suggested it half way through the year. I was already leaning that way and her confirmation made me happier with that choice. He’s in grade 2 now. Great student. Gets good grades and is apparently extremely well behaved at school (according to all teachers and the principal). My other 2 started at 5 turning 6 too and they were both more than ready, if my middle child didn’t have speech delays I would have sent him earlier because the mental and social stimulation he gets from school makes him really happy. My youngest is born in January and right now it’s too early to tell if she will be ready for school or not when she is meant to go but with her I’ll do what I feel is right. If you don’t feel she is ready then go with your gut. It is better to hold them back during the start than have them struggling in grade 7.

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12 months ago
I didn’t send my daughter the year she was Eligible (1st of February Birthday) she turned 6 the week she started school. THE BEST THING I did for her. So many people told me I was Holding her back, that if she’s not ready this year she won’t be any more ready next year. I’m so grateful for the friends who told me to trust my gut. Her kindy had a little decemeber boy who I can see why mum knew he wasn’t ready and she didn’t send him.
You know your child. Listen to yourself, if you don’t think she’s ready she’s not. That being said a lot happens in the next 2 years. Send her at 4 then decide if she needs another year at kindy.