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3rd child with a gap.

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So hubby and I have 2 children together. We thought we were done but we're not. We have an 8yo and 6yo. Does anyone have a gap like this for a 3rd? How has it all gone?? Please give me all the advice and tips you can to help us in our decision. We are young still, both 31.


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5 years ago
i do not have kids with that gap, but i have a brother 6 years older than me, we talk daily and are really close. he taught me how to do all the fun stuff, like shots ,driving, surfing etc

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5 years ago
Thanks so much for your response, I didn't even think of it that way! My sister is 6 years older than me and we're close.

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5 years ago
Yep same here my younger brother six years apart is my best friend. We are super close. My other brother who is four years younger... Well simply put, I'm not a fan

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5 years ago
yeah, the youngest will always have a protector and a teacher. plus someone to call when they get in trouble and do not want to call mum and dad!

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5 years ago
Sounds like you’ve made up your mind. You won’t have to wonder once you’re pregnant.

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5 years ago
Do what you want!
F*** the norm or what people think!
The more people you ask the more confused you get
I am pregnant with my third and have a nine year old!

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5 years ago
There is 11 years between my sister and i and we are best friends, always have been. And there is 17 years between her and my brother, we are all very close.

I have a 9 year gap between my two eldest and 12 year gap between my youngest and oldest. Also very close and feels totally normal, we are a happy family, so much so that we are considering another baby which, if we go ahead with it will mean we will also have about a 17 year gap between eldest and youngest.

If you want a baby, can provide for it and will love and care for it do it! No matter the age gap or anything else.

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5 years ago
Oops! And i meant to add, i have another sister who is 2 years younger then me and we have never got along, its not the age gap that makes a difference its the personality’s.

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5 years ago
I think that gap is too big and wouldn’t do it personally. Everyone I’ve spoken to with a big third gap seems to regret waiting for their third and these people often seem to say that the third is left out.

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5 years ago
I have a friend with that exact split, while he is the light of their family and everyone’s obsession, he’s often by himself now at 7.
He’s not an only child but the play with his siblings is very different or not nearly as much.


I have 10 years between myself and my sister and she’s not in my memories till I’m about 15, cos she moved to London at 20. Came home at 25.

There’s not right or wrong.
It’s different though

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5 years ago
I only have 2 kids and there's a 12 year gap. It took me that long to get over the first 😂😂

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5 years ago
I have no children yet, but I am one of 4, my older two sisters are 6 and 8 years ( 18 months between them) and then my younger brother is 10 and 8 years younger than the the two older girls and 18 months younger than me.
My two older sisterS are and always have been so much older than me that they have been in different stages of life ( then high school me primary, them kids me no kids). My brother and I are close.
Growing my my parents referred to the children as the girls ( my two older sisters ) and the littlelies ( my brother and I) and that was kinda how they relationships developed I am close to my brother but not really my older sisters and they are close to each other but not really me or my brother.

With that age gap I wouldn’t have just three I would actually aim for another r2 kids to make it even.

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5 years ago
My gap is 13 years exactly between my second and my baby. I'm not sure long term what the impacts will be but 6/8 years is a lot closer that's for sure

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5 years ago
Why do you want another baby ?

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5 years ago
I feel like something is missing. I was so set against no more because I had a very very hard pregnancy with my second that scared me into having more. But were both so clucky, talk about it all the time. It makes us really happy to even just speak about it.

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5 years ago
Foster a baby

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5 years ago
I foster children and it's actually really traumatic on the other kids you have and nothing like having your own baby especially when it's reunited with its family.