From experience the most romantic guy I was ever with turned out to be a low down dirty cheating dog. I'm sure he'd be cheating on whatever lady was unlucky enough to marry him now doing all those things your wishing for & she doesn't know. Doing "romantic things" does not mean he loves you. Consider yourself lucky he's not cheating. It could be worse. It's probably just a phase it'll pass.

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Such an interesting questions and subject. Naw, I read this and I feel a little sad too! I Have no advice. All I wonder from reading, is if you could see it from a different way: that you can’t teach him to feel authentic giving you gifts to feel loved..he just doesn’t feel comfortable for whatever reason.. like I can’t teach my kid the joy of certain activities/sports as she is just not into it, where as when she finds something like she did recently, she just couldn’t stop and it taught me this! Your husband may see it as working to look after you and keep you happy(would you be happier if you lived in a worse place or had to work?).. or he could just be working because he is overly insecure. With the organism I’m curious if you have pretended to orgasm? I know this is a big no no, but I wonder if this sometimes trains them to not really try. I wish I could offer some solace sorry

I have not figured out his love language and he has not figured out mine :(

Every day.
We don't need to buy gifts etc but it's an appreciation comment, a stop and a big cuddle with a few kisses and I love yous.
It's "you seem tired today, I'll clean up or cook". Were affectionate in that we hold hands, we cuddle on the couch. Were open with each other and let one an other know what's going on, if we're going to be late etc
We just understand and respect each other. Been 12 years and still going strong and still very much in love.

My husband and I dont say I love you all the time or buy gifts all the time.

Our love is through actions. I love it when he just goes and makes brekky like this morning or goes to do the laundry. It just works.

Sometimes we have cuddles (just cuddles) when we pass each other doing housework. It's lovely and my daughter (5) finds us and yells Hey! What about me! And we cuddle together.

After 14 years, he still messages me if he's going to be 30 mins late after work, even tho I dont expect him too.

We hold hands when in public but I know each to their own. It makes me feel nice.

These things others might feel like a love gesture but to me it is.

:) Hope you can find what you are looking for OP x Maybe talk to him? The groping thing seems annoying.

For me love is through actions and not words (although I’m lucky to have both) I receive gifts just because. He respects me, supports me, encourages me, has my back in all situations, makes me laugh even when some days all I want to do is cry. He is not perfect nor am I but we balance each other out and are perfect for each other.
Yes you will be ok. Just accept the fact that we all have different love languages. Think about all the highs and lows in your life and what role your partner has played and I bet you’ll realise he loves you more than you know. If you love flowers buy them for yourself, you can’t force romance!