Have some faith that you have raised them right. When i was 17, my parents would let me stay at my girlfriends house overnight, we would have a big sleepover/ party, and yes we had male friends there ( but not to sleep over), the worst thing we did was have a couple of drinks of wine and get silly in the backyard. No drugs, no sex, nothing bad. I had decent friends, with decent families and my parents trusted me. Have some trust in your daughter as well.

I have teens, and let them have friends over. We have a separate lounge they can use, unsupervised but we are not far away. I turn a blind eye to drinks as long as they don't write themselves off. But it's kids they know, older kids will be kicked out immediately 18 year olds that want to hang out with 16 year olds are usually weirdo boys that want to sleep with younger girls.

Wow I get why OP has said no, but seriously at 17 she is old enough to move out of home and do what she wants and, if you push her too much, she is going to make the decision to go and live with these friends. People really don't seem to get this. You need to treat her like an adult and have a conversation with her and not treat her like a child because she isn't one anymore. "I feel like you should probably pick better friends because of x, y and z reasons, but at the end of the day it is your decision." You may think "live under my roof then obey my rules" but all that's going to do is make her look for an out as soon as possible. At 17 I can damn near promise you she has already tried drinking and having sex. Your job now is to make sure she does those things SAFELY, not try and stop her from doing them. Don't give your blessing and say "go and drink and have sex" just say "I trust you to make mature decisions, but please remember that..." this coming from a person who, at 17 was told I couldn't have a boyfriend who lived on his own and was 19 so I packed my bag in the middle of the night, snuck out and went to live with him and didn't talk to my parents again until I was 19. Trust me, you don't want that

no

Maybe if I know them well enough

I see where you're coming from. But from experience, the tighter you keep that chain the harder they'll fight.. Or even just break away and do what they want regardless. Say you'd love to meet them first just so you know she's around good people and go from there

With no parents definitely NOT!
I’m only taking a wild guess but the girls especially at that age in these times won’t be eating popcorn and watching disney movies. There will be guys (similar age or older) there will be alcohol and there will be a bunch of funny business. I know if my parents allowed my 17yo self to have sleepovers with zero parent supervision I would’ve crossed every boundary because you know that’s what teenagers do! How bout invite miss 18 & 19 to yours since it’s an “ordinary above board” sleepover.

No

Assuming the child is reasonably responsible I would let them go for a few hours but not stay over.

It's hard raising teenage girls, at 17 if you don't give your daughter some rope she could so easily just say well seeya and go do it, or worse anyway.
My daughter is 15 and I'm trying my hardest just to raise her with the empowerment to make good decisions so I can give her some freedom without worrying so very much. At some point you have to let them fly and all you can do is hope that your parenting has been enough to keep them in the air, your daughter is almost an adult now.

Talk to them about safe sex. Understand they will most likely drink. Explain the dangers of drugs.


Tell your 17 year old if they are in trouble it doesn’t matter what is happening you will always help ...without judgement! Don’t judge if you get called. Let your child know you will be available to pick them up at ANY time, make a password that if they call you to be picked up you know to come and get them so they don’t need to call for mummy to save them or they can call and ask you to read your text messages, make sure they know to call first in case a 2am text doesn’t go unseen. You can be the bad guy and go bang on the door demanding they get their arse in the car, a 17 year old doesn’t want to look like a light weight bailing out but will ‘do as they are told when Mum has flipped her bitch switch’
Who knows your 17 year old might move in there or elsewhere sometime soon, especially if they have no freedom.

This kind of approach can save life’s, my Mum went to help my brother, his best mate had his stomach pumped and was in an induced coma for a few days. Mum made their 16 year old drunk arses watch his stomach get pumped!

Yes I would as long as I have the address and arrange a time for them to be home the next day. My son is a few weeks away from being 17 and I’ve let him do this in the past. You can’t be too strict on them give them some leeway, you’ll have time address so shouldn’t be a problem

I think these replies are from people with small children, giving teenager advice when you have babies is the same as giving baby advice when you're childless. You guys have no idea what you're in for 😂

Nope not at all

no, don't think so