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I’m not going to tear you to shreds. But what a sad society we have become when we assume all males who work in childcare must be pedophiles.
To all those criticizing the original poster, you need to keep certain things in mind:
- OPs question doesn’t seem to be malicious in intent. She clearly isn’t trying to offend anyone, she is just trying to navigate a new situation.
- I think we can all agree that as parents we want what is best for our kids and sometimes the unknown can be a bit overwhelming.
- OP is asking for opinions or experiences. Blatantly criticizing and name calling is not helpful to anyone.
Can we please all just act like respectful adults.
Sick of people accusing posters who have a different opinion or experience to theirs as trolls or having a ‘bad attitude’.
This is a place of extremes isn’t it. Horrible nasty trolls who deserve the boot. And those who get easily offended by the smallest of things.
Hey, I own an agency that provides childcare to Australian Parents.
Please don't feel uncomfortable asking this. These are your feelings and they are valid. There is a child for every sitter and a sitter for every child. He may not be it and that's ok. Because in the end there is plenty of other places you can go to and it's important you feel comfortable.
I was raised by a male "Manny" and he was great.
Lots of men are starting to join this industry and allot actually do a great job. Some children respond better to male carers. My own girls for example being much more suited to a male carer.
All checks you will assume have been done. Most likely he is a most wonderful man who provides a valuable service and acts as a good male role model. Some men really suit the excitement of running around.
In saying that your intuition is important. It is your greatest defence against things out there that mean to do you harm. You must ascertain what is paranoia of the unknown and what is your intuition. The best way to do that is be educated on this specific situation.
I myself have experienced the fallout of not listening to my intuition. I went to pick my niece up from after school care at the school. I saw a male teacher. He made the hair on my arm go up. There was something about him. Something I couldn't put my finger on. Something predatory. I told my sister who told me I was paranoid. She pretty much shamed me. Well as it turns out he really was a pedophile. 4 little girls had been hurt by him. My niece being one of them.
So remember to listen to your intuition. Don't ignore it because you think people will say you are crazy or judgemental. If you honestly get a bad feeling meeting him that you can't shake then be vigilant to make sure everything is ok.
You have a right to feel comfortable. He has a right to be working. So investigate properly to find out if this is the daycare for you. If it isn't then look elsewhere.
You don't have to go there remember.
Good luck finding somewhere suitable for your families needs. :)
We need more males working in education and early childhood care. We are lacking role models for our boys in a society so ready to criticise boys for being boys.
Boy'ms and girls are different. So boys WILL be boys and shouldn't have to apologise for it.
I wish we had more males working with children.
Statistically your children are safer with strangers not family.
I would be wary too . 🤷🏽♀️
I would recommend speaking with him. He could be the most coolest bloke you've ever met or you could get a weird vibe. Don't judge him cause he has a c**k. Speak with the lad, ask him why chlidcare, what he does in his spare time etc
My daughter had a male daycare worker who was fabulous. He was so dedicated to his work & did his very best for each & every one of his kids. You won't find too many working in these fields as the stigma that goes with it puts men off doing these jobs. No real advice except get to know him, observe how he interacts with the kids & how they respond.
This is what was taught to me recently by an ex police cop who found herself in this position.
What about the little boys who still need help toiletting? Does anyone get concerned when it’s a female helping them?
No, I won’t tear you to shreds, you’re just sadly a product of our current society which sees men as predictors. Just think about how wonderful it will be for her to get another male role model in her life. I’m saying this as a mother who had the same thoughts first time I saw a male daycare worker at our centre, but now am very accepting of men in the profession. You need to acknowledge your bias and work to fix that.
My son had a male daycare worker.
Kids & parents loved him!
He brought something different to the daycare that the kids simply enjoyed
Absolutely. My daughter's educator was a male and he was fantastic. She adored him and so did hubby and I :)
I’m all for man working in day care centres, but with older kids. Iv always said (and told my sons day care when they hired a male) 3 and under there’s no way I would be willing to have a male day care teacher. I’d be fine 4 and up.
A lot to parents feel like that, I have worked with a few men and only one was rubbish at the job (he just wanted to watch movies with the kids all day). Don't worry, child care is set up so all staff can be seen while caring for the children. If it really bothers you find another centre.
My 4yo has a male carer at his daycare. He's the room leader and is great with the kids. Very patient and caring as all of the carers at his centre are. I wasn't at all bothered by him having a male carer