How do you know if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship?

Answered 4 years ago

I know that it might sound ridiculous but I really can’t tell if I am in an emotionally abusive relationship or if my husband is just a grump with a bad temper. There is no physical or sexual violence but I am dependent on him financially. I am a nurse but without him at home to help with the kids I can’t work because of the shift times. We have no family nearby and few friends. He often picks on me about my parenting, my appearance (especially my weight-I have put on some weight from anti depressants),belittles me, makes nasty comments about my few friends, yells at me, can be quite manipulative and has eroded my self esteem. He is an extremely intelligent man who presents very well to others. No one outside of my house would believe he was like this. Any thoughts or readers experiences would be greatly appreciated.

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4 years ago

I think you already know the answer to the question....

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4 years ago

So i went to the police station and described my partner cos i was worried (didn't want them to do anything just needed help) and they gave me some numbers and i Called some and was put thru to woman's refuge in My area who confirmed that threats and put downs are emotional abuse (it was much more but they provided me with lots of information over the phone and a hotline to call if things got worse)

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4 years ago

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4 years ago

From very limited info. I’d say emotional abuse. There’s a good podcast you may want to listen to on this topic. Look at ‘ladies we need to talk’. It’s on there. Look after yourself

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4 years ago

There are some really good resources available so you can ascertain whether he is abusing you. Listen to Real Crime Profile - the episodes with Jess Hill on her book ‘See what you made me do’. Very good. Mamma Mia No Filter podcast - ‘It was invisible’ episode from 21 May is also very good. Also the Ladies We Need To Talk podcast episode on emotional abuse from 28 July. Have a listen to all of them. I think it will help you to understand your situation and what decisions you could make. Hugs to you ❤️

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4 years ago

Sending hugs xx I can relate to this in a few ways. I went and did some counselling sessions and this saved my state of mind. I went on anxiety medication as a result if my living situation and this came with a ‘mental health plan’ there are bulk billing services available.
I was open with my husband about going and thankfully he was supportive.
The counselling helped me see things differently and gave me strength in myself which helped mw in situations I was experiencing.
It is very hard having little to no support networks close by and being home 24/7 gets lonely -even though you love the kids to bits.
My advice look into the counselling to chats about where your at in the relationship and go from there 💜

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