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How to spice things up in the bedroom?

Answered 18 days ago

My husband and I are in a rut in the bedroom. While we do have sex regularly, we are both getting bored of how “routine” it is with 3 kids.

How do you ladies keep things exciting? We have used toys a little (doesnt do much for either of us), and feel like we need to do something bigger to give things a kickstart.

How have you in long term relationships reinvigorated things?

Please share your experiences here!

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ANSWER
18 days ago
You have to talk openly and honestly. You only have one life, so you must say exactly how you feel and it is only then that you will enter the sex life that you deserve.

ANSWER
26 days ago
We have been chatting on swinging sites and it has opened our eyes to new fantasies. Odly I’m super keen to see my hubby with another woman like a reverse chuck hold.

ANSWER
4 months ago
Do the 30 day quarantine sex challenge! There and 30 days of different sex challenges for you to do! Here is the link!
https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/bodyandsoul/the-ultimate-30-day-quarantine-sex-challenge/ Enjoy!

ANSWER
5 months ago
I had this issue with my partner. No spark.
We ended up just being spontaneous, I understand this is hard with 3 kids but you just have to do it, FIND the time. MAKE the time and just do it.
The kids will be fine for 15 minutes while you have a quick smash in the garden shed or bent over the washing machine. This doesn't hold longevity but it does help bring that sexy spark back. Make shit hot - not just standard ole bedroom sex. Go for a quick drive somewhere and have a hot quickie on the backseat. Whatever you need to do, but MAKE THE TIME. No excuses

ANSWER
5 months ago
Go onto the Lovehoney website - they have costumes, lingerie, toys and games - lots of great ideas to spice things up!

REPLY
5 months ago
OP, thanks. We have had a look at that type of thing. We need to try something a little more adventurous to wake us up a bit!

ANSWER
5 months ago
Try new positions / new places around home/in the car.

Make fake profiles on social media and flirt with each other arrange to "meet up" as strangers.

Download apps that allow you to send requests/dares to each other (desire is a good one)

Get husband to buy you lingerie that he would like to see you in. Do a sexy photo shoot. You could even have husband be the photographer.


I hope some of this helps or at least inspires some ideas of your own 😊

REPLY
5 months ago
OP here, thank you for your reply! I will try some of this out.

Sexy photoshoot sounds fun!