Would I be an asshole if I change my name legally/professionally and only told my husband (whilst still using my birth n
Answered 1 year ago
Would I be an asshole if I change my name legally/professionally and only told my husband (whilst still using my birth name as my "preferred name")?
My parents gave me a super odd name. Like similar to Peter Pepper-Piper kind of alliteration and cringe. When I got married, I took my husbands last name, as it was SLIGHTLY less cringe than my maiden name. Think like Peter Pepperson instead (fuck this sucks that I need to do this anonymously). Still lots of alliteration, and a comical feel to it. It's been holding me back professionally. I've actually had interviewers say they didn't believe it was real and they had to see for themselves. I get so many creeps on social media who think its a stripper name or that I'm an insta-thot because haha, my name sounds funny (idk, men are fucking weird). And I'm tired of it.
My parents LOVE my name. So do my extended family. It's a hodgepodge of family names mixed together to honour various relatives. And yeah it would be cutesy on a kid, but I'm an adult.
Would it be shitty to change it secretly so my resume gets positive attention and not just thrown out and seen as a joke?
Have an answer?
I'm 30, and I'm trying to get into some kind of high risk work (forklift driving, civil labouring - loaders/diggers/etc) or office work, or some kind of traineeship in the humanitarian sector. Its a toss up between "make all the money!" and "take care of people because I love humans".
Feel free to chuck any other suggestions at me you think of
Obviously certificates and references will be in your current name
Are the 4 most common girls names in the 1990s
Thank you 🙂
On the very slim chance you guess it (very very slim), I'll never admit to it here. At least one of my sisters knows about this site (SHE has a normal name!)
But in answer to your question, you live one life, you have one shot at making it happy. If this is what you need to achieve that then go for it.
Thank you for your reply though