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Would I be an asshole if I change my name legally/professionally and only told my husband (whilst still using my birth n

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Would I be an asshole if I change my name legally/professionally and only told my husband (whilst still using my birth name as my "preferred name")?

My parents gave me a super odd name. Like similar to Peter Pepper-Piper kind of alliteration and cringe. When I got married, I took my husbands last name, as it was SLIGHTLY less cringe than my maiden name. Think like Peter Pepperson instead (fuck this sucks that I need to do this anonymously). Still lots of alliteration, and a comical feel to it. It's been holding me back professionally. I've actually had interviewers say they didn't believe it was real and they had to see for themselves. I get so many creeps on social media who think its a stripper name or that I'm an insta-thot because haha, my name sounds funny (idk, men are fucking weird). And I'm tired of it.
My parents LOVE my name. So do my extended family. It's a hodgepodge of family names mixed together to honour various relatives. And yeah it would be cutesy on a kid, but I'm an adult.
Would it be shitty to change it secretly so my resume gets positive attention and not just thrown out and seen as a joke?


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1 year ago
Can you shorten your name or use your middle name (if you have one). I worked as a medical receptionist and there are lots of people that go by their middle name or an entirely different name than what is on their Medicare cards.

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1 year ago
Thanks for the suggestion. My middle name is Bunny. So Imma leave that one lol.

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1 year ago
Get your arse a new name and get yourself a good job. What kind of work are you looking for? Whatโ€™s your rough age??? My boredom wants to help you think of a name lol

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1 year ago
My curiosity is open to your assistance with this.
I'm 30, and I'm trying to get into some kind of high risk work (forklift driving, civil labouring - loaders/diggers/etc) or office work, or some kind of traineeship in the humanitarian sector. Its a toss up between "make all the money!" and "take care of people because I love humans".

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1 year ago
Deborah is the most common ceo name

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1 year ago
Deborah??? I'm going to feel that one out for a while. Although my initial reaction was negative. But, I'll mull it over. Thanks for the suggestion ๐Ÿ™‚

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1 year ago
Ok I've sat on Deborah for a couple of hours, and whilst it sounds very professional, it really isn't for me. But I do appreciate your help in this.
Feel free to chuck any other suggestions at me you think of

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1 year ago
I wish I knew you personally, I would have so much fun with this

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1 year ago
A plain Jane name
Kate
Katie
Tracey
Lisa
Charolette
Sarah
Lucy

Obviously certificates and references will be in your current name

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1 year ago
Hayley
Michelle
Belinda

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1 year ago
Jessica
Emily
Sarah
Stephanie
Are the 4 most common girls names in the 1990s

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1 year ago
I'd potentially go for a unisex name, especially if you want to get into male dominated jobs. Eg Ashley, Cameron, Riley, Darcy, Charlie.

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1 year ago
Ooh you've made some lovely suggestions. I'm going to feel out some of them.
Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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1 year ago
They also have to hire a ratio of women, just saying

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1 year ago
This is why many famous people have stage names. They wouldnโ€™t make it with their real names. Do it.

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1 year ago
Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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1 year ago
I think itโ€™s ok to use a more simplified name in a professional setting.

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1 year ago
Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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1 year ago
Change it, its your life. I changed mine and havent looked back.

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1 year ago
Thank you!

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1 year ago
Seriously, if you dislike your name it impacts you. Professionally and socially so why not change it. Do what I did wait a month get your official papers then text them casually saying Im now officially ......

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1 year ago
I am Annabella Priscilla Pappagalloloumina

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1 year ago
^๐Ÿ˜‚ no. But I'm enjoying your random name additions. Please go on.
On the very slim chance you guess it (very very slim), I'll never admit to it here. At least one of my sisters knows about this site (SHE has a normal name!)

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1 year ago
I wish I knew what your name is because this has me curious.

But in answer to your question, you live one life, you have one shot at making it happy. If this is what you need to achieve that then go for it.

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1 year ago
It is honest to goodness the most ridiculous fucking name I've ever heard lol. As if I wasn't already going to be a target for bullies with red hair and glasses, I have some kind of punchline name ๐Ÿ˜‚
Thank you for your reply though

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1 year ago
Itโ€™s Penelope Pippalongstocking Quinn

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1 year ago
^๐Ÿ˜‚ no, no its not. But that's just as awful as mine

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1 year ago
I see no problem with this- I mean do people in media actually have real names these days?! No. I think you donโ€™t have to lie to your parents, but just be truthful...but thatโ€™s because I can be quite blunt and say things how I feel, it depends on your circumstances. Definitely nothing to worry about and if itโ€™s holding you back then definitely do it- stand up for yourself x

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1 year ago
Thank you!

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1 year ago
Lots of people go by a professional name. I dont see an issue with it. I grew up with a super difficult to spell Greek name so I totally get how much of a pain it might be.

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1 year ago
Thank you! This is the argument I'll bring out first if I'm ever busted. That its just a "professional name" - but not my "realllllll naaaame" ๐Ÿ˜‰