Leave him. A man who says he will do something and then plays with your emotions that way is NOT worth the time of day. If he wanted to propose he would have by now. He is biding his time until he can a) get out and take half of everything and 2) move on with his next thing or c) isnt interested in marriage at all. At his age he wont change his mind. Been there.

Maybe he has some kind of suprise lined up but due to current circumstances with Covid there’s been a delay in his plans. How about stop stressing and see what plays out over the next few months. He definitely isn’t going to communicate his plans if it is indeed a suprise. You did say he assured you he hasn’t changed his mind about getting engaged, if he is going to share anymore information he may just ruin whatever plans he may have in place. Be patient and observe what happens next. Good luck x

I'd just straight out ask him, to suss if he is dicking you around or not. Don't dangle it like a carrot using silly clues like it will be an 'important date' so now you're hoping and wondering at every milestone date, or even wondering on an insignificant date that ''maybe today's the day and the 'important date' thing was just a strategy to distract you so you are surprised..'. I'm basically at the point where I want to know if a guy is ready for marriage, and by 'ready' is he talking like 5 or more years away 'ready' or it's something that with the right person he'd be open to in a 2-3 years. I'd rather an honest answer because marriage is important to me, I'm older now and I don't really wish to lurk around for 5 years for a man to know he's ready, life is too short, I want a man who wants me and is certain of it enough to 'get married' so I'd actually rather be alone until that person appears. Probably makes me a nutter but that's ok hahah if you ask him, he says he IS ready and you genuinely trust and believe his answer, then maybe try to let it go for a while and see what pans out - but trust your gut.

Stop talking to us and talk to him!! Better yet, show him this entire post!! It might help.

OMG have you asked him? Yes it’s understandable to feel hurt but try to at least let him explain. If he isn’t ready then a discussion about where he sees the relationship going might help you both move forward. Honestly being married does not equal to being happy.

Leave, he is just strining you along. Seriously

After reading your replies I get the feeling you love him but you're maybe not in love with him. And maybe you're even worried about what's out there if you go it alone. Believe me, I was the same and even though it was totally scary and lonely at times in the beginning, I found my rythm and found myself. I made new friendship, appreciated my long term friendships, found new activities and spent some wonderful quality time with my children. 5 years later I'm in a loving, patient and truly happy relationship where neither of us have brought the baggage we had accumulated from our pasts. Obviously things come up but we're able to communicate sk well without projection. I honestly didn't think I'd ever be in this place.
And in all honesty, if you aren't 100% then you should move on. Bringing up someone's children and being controlled isnt living your best life and you deserve that. And he deserves to take time to sort out his emotional baggage alone.
Good luck.

Do you need a marriage proposal to stick around? Some people never get married. My folks have since passed away but after 50+ years together they were never married

Perhaps he's committed but happy the way things are.
Would it be a bad thing to stay de facto? Getting married doesn't mean it'll last forever.

Do you have kids, or are you waiting to get married before you have kids? If getting engaged isn't holding you up to do other stuff I wouldn't worry too much. If waiting is stopping you planning your future then leave. I was in your situation year's ago and left because I didn't want to waste any more time on someone that isn't going anywhere.

Sorry hun but I'd tell him to shit or get off the pot. Hugs to you ❤

Yikes. What a dick thing to do to you! Does he usually play games like this with your emotions?

Maybe he ordered a ring online and the delivery keeps getting delayed so he delays the proposal. If you want to leave him just because he won’t propose then I don’t think you love him enough. If you loved him you wouldn’t care about a marriage certificate.

That’s pretty cruel. I’d be questioning his commitment to me if I were you.