Hey there. It’s a personal choice. You just need to think about what makes you happy!

It’s a personal choice. Good on you for weighing it all up first and being happy with your decision. It’s called family planning for a reason. I was more than happy with two. I don’t ever see a big family and say I wish that was me. You just need to think about what makes you happy. A friend of mine from school married a boy we grew up with from kindergarten and they have four kids. That’s not a life I would choose but she is very happy.

I was 29 when I had my third. We were aiming for 4 but I knew I couldn't face having another baby and everything it entailed, Mostly the same reasons you described, especially the exhaustion. From the start I didn't enjoy being pregnant with my last one and just wanted it out. I see a baby now and love having cuddles but am so happy to give it back.

You know when you/your body has had enough and from I read, it kinda sounds like (my apologies for overstepping) you are already there. There are lots of women who have babies into their 40s, even having their first at 40 without any problems. and 4 is a good number. I always heard that if you are going to have 3 you may as well have four.

However it will be hard as you will pretty much have a toddler as well as a baby and that is exhausting, not to mention the financial side. You will need a 7 seater car. Is your house big enough for 4 growing kids or will you need to move? Who is going to do the majority of the child care and what help will they have? Do you have school aged kids because it helps if you do. Also I have heard that the older a women gets the higher their chance of twins.

My point is: You and your husband should sit down and discuss the logistics of it. Write it all down all the pros and cons, all the forseeable costs, who is going to do what and what sort of help you can expect, etc and see how you feel. If you still want to have another child even after seeing everything involved, then go for it!

It's totally up to you and your partner, and just think if you'll regret not having another one or not. Don't worry about age Cameron Diaz just had one at 47 and benji is 40. Good luck with your decision.