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Rather than staying at their house is there somewhere close by you can holiday and still be able to spend the days or a few dinners with them?
Nothing worse than having to use annual leave for a holiday you don't enjoy.
I agree, just stay near them rather than with them, If they get have a problem with it stop going or make it a very short visit. I have friends who's in laws sound similar and they just refuse to stay with them now. The in laws get upset if they want to go out for coffee or get the kids ice cream as they have that at home why go out and buy it. My mum likes to have every one visit her so she can control everything. If I bring a banana for my toddler I get a lecture "he can eat what he is given" type thing, because toddlers always eat what they are given.
I hate staying there too sounds like the same reasons I can't seem to get out of there for a walk or shops or anything without a millions questions and basically never alone mil comes with to show me where to go ugh the whole point is to escape for a hr. It's so boring my bum literally gets sore sitting around all day and night. They also refuse to put away their breakables they think the kids should just learn not to touch or move anything so it's very stressful constantly watching the toddlers.
don't go at all, stand your ground. You are a adult, act like one. If you don't like them, just don't go. your husband can go, and you stay at home. He will come back to a happy, relaxed wife.
"I don't like you so much I'm not even going to bother visiting you". That's not going to make Christmas dinners awkward for her husband at all.
Our in-laws just moved overseas and are wanting us to go visit. Since it's going to be so expensive my husband wants to make it worthwhile and go for 2-3 weeks. Both of us can REALLY only take the in-laws in small doses - like a few hours at a time at best lol - so we've just decided to book accommodation nearby. MIL is obviously a little offended that we won't be staying with them and is trying to convince us to but we just keep standing our ground and saying that we'd like to do a bit of sight seeing some days while we are there and we don't want to impose (hint hint nudge nudge - don't do it to us either when you come to visit 😜).
While they're are a little offended they will get over it and the repercussions are much less than that from the tension at the end of a week of being under the same roof as them.
Oh god, I shudder just thinking about it!