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Babysitting my friends baby

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My close friend recently just had a baby from a one night stand. He wanted nothing to do with baby and has signed off all parenting rights (she was ok with this). She’s gone back to work after maternity leave and asks if I can watch her baby I usually always say yes but by now I would have thought she would come up with a better plan. I have 2 kids of my own 4 & 6 and I’ve been helping her for the past year. I just don’t want to do it anymore. I don’t want to be responsible for a baby. AITA for not wanting to ? Idk how to tell her no. I know things are hard being a single parent but I don’t want the responsibility of a 1 year old. How long am I going to be the babysitter til she’s 2 , 3, ??


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4 months ago
Ask her if she has taken the opportunity to look at childcare facilities yet? This opens dialogue about how good it is for kids development and sociàl skills. Say that you are thinking of going back to work yourself now and that it would be a good idea for her child to get social skills by being around othee kids.

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4 months ago
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I’m a SAHM

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4 months ago
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That doesn’t make it okay to expect you to babysit.

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4 months ago
Tell her you’re struggling with things lately and you just don’t feel capable of looking after her child. Tell her you just don’t have the energy to look after a young child. If you don’t say anything, she’ll think you’re ok with it and keep expecting you to do it. She’ll probably feel totally ok with it.

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4 months ago
How often are you having the child?? I would bring up childcare with the mum. Say you've loved looking after the little one but it's getting a bit tough for you etc

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4 months ago
You don’t have to at all and it’s a massive favour to ask. And you’re right, she should have asked ages ago and sorted out a plan.
You need to set firm boundaries around what you are comfortable with.