I made the mistake of getting drunk and sleeping with someone. Ill never do that again, but should I confess to my fianc
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I made the mistake of getting drunk and sleeping with someone. Ill never do that again, but should I confess to my fiancé?
I’ve been with my fiancé for 3 years and lived together for 2. Just last month he proposed. We don’t have any issues. We play, tease, communicate with each other. We are so happy. But the other night while he was away for work, I was out with my friends and I got really drunk. A guy I’ve spelt with 7 years ago (married with kids) kept buying me drinks and kept insinuating to have one last f**k before I get married. And that’s it’s better to do it now than to cheat when I’m married. I was so incredibly drunk. Even the night was a blur, all I know is I caved and I did sleep with him. I’ve never been possessed to cheat on him or the thought never has crossed my mind. It just happened. I don’t want to lose my fiancé. He is the love of my life and I realize that even more now. I’m kind of thankful for the learning experience because I know I’d never do this to him when we’re married. And I know I’m going to treat him like the king he is. My question is do I just take this to the grave and never tell him or do I need to confess? I’ve already scheduled a therapist but I just really can’t live with the fact hurting him more, it will tear him apart. It will literally break him. Any advice would be amazing. Thank
Ps. I know the other person won’t saw anything because 7 years ago when I slept with him when I was in college. He was married and had just one child. He has kept that a secret all this time.
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Just tell your fiancé so he can move on and get someone who loves and respects him.
Alcohol is no excuse
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I say this as a loving devoted caring & supportive wife, who's husband had an affair. I wish he never told me. He wasn't prepared to do the work to fix our marriage & reconcile properly. It's left me devastated, 6 years on.
Get tested & shut up, you've learned your lesson. it's your burden to live with the guilt & take the secret to the grave. Be the best wife you can be.
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Look, you made a very big mistake here. As tempting as it is to keep it a secret, you owe the truth to your FIANCÉ. You also owe him your loyalty, but that ship has sailed, so at least give him the truth.
Maybe he slipped something in your drink. Maybe he blew his load inside and you and you're currently up the duff or have some disease.
You are in a committed relationship. Be honest.