If you choose to go ahead with an unplanned pregnancy, its on you. He is 16, give him the option of being involved or not. It needs it to be his choice to be involved. If he doesn't want to he has to be honest and let them get on with their lives.

My son is 15 and no he is not mature enough to be a dad. I agree with the OP, it would be rare for any 16 year old boy to step up and be a dad. Also I think horribly unfair. Safe sex is not just about disease but also protecting both from unwanted pregnancies. The other less talked about option is abortion. For a woman who does not have support this is the appropriate choice. There is not point going ahead with the pregnancy and then complaining about a 16 yr old boy not being ready.

Honestly this is why 16yr olds should not be having sex it’s too young

This hits close to home for me. I was the 16 year old mother who had a child with an irresponsible 17 year old. His mother defended with he shouldn’t have his life “over” because we had a baby. 14 years on and my child has and wants nothing to do with him. He wanted to repair the relationship a couple of years ago and my child said no, I have full custody. My ex is the dad, he stepped up and raised a child he didn’t make at 16, was there to change nappies, and midnight cuddles, reading stories, teaching how to read, tie shoe laces. If you ever want a relationship with the child you both better step up or just fuck off out of their lives. If you have sex you risk making a baby, no 16 year old in Australia can use ignorance as an excuse. So don’t poor me and teach your son that the mother had to grow up to raise a child and if he wants to be a man he should too. Otherwise he is nothing more than a worthless sperm donor.

I would be actually making/encouraging him to be doing more.
If our teenagers don't want to go to school, we still drop them there to go and do it, whether it's a half arsed effort or not.
If they have a job, we still take them to it and don't let them not show up because they don't feel like it.
This is another lesson in taking responsibility. You should be doing the same here. You have a responsibility, he has one. Whether he wants to or not.

But the question is, did he even try? Or did he just leave it all to the Mum?

At 16 a males brain is still developing and they are not fully mature until age 24 so psychologists state. While a l t of young men cab be mature for their age a lot would struggle being a dad at 16 just as a young lady would struggle at 16 becoming a mum.

What is done is done and all you can all do is ensure your son takes responsibility for his child and raises it right. His life will never be the same and that takesbtime to adjust to. Especially for a 16 year old.

At the end of the day it dosnt matter how old he is, he had sex, made a baby and became a father. The mother of the baby has to step up, so should he. You shouldnt be making excuses for him.

Sorry I can't reply to each comment. That bloody ad at the bottom is making it impossible.
I have spoken to him many times, explained he needs to put the time in now, but he doesn't get it. I can't force him to do the right thing. I think the pressure he is getting from us is making it worse. I'm just frustrated because the family are making it all so difficult.

No he won’t take to it straight away its prob all fun and games to him and he doesn’t actually realise it’s serious and he has responsibilities to another life now other than himself but I also think he is way too young to have gotten himself in this situation as well. 16 is way too young to have a child he is only a child himself how did that even happen. I think his parents( you and his father) need to take some responsibility as well