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Alone time

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Im going absolutely batsh*t crazy. I never ever ever get 5 mins to myself in a day. My kids all have adhd and are so full on and in my face every min of the day, my husband is off work, noisy animals and i work in a shared noisy office with ppl all day and never get a lunch break. My phone never stops pinging, kids are in bed with me every night. I need alone time more than i can possibly express because when I have told my therapist she thinks i need a break and says to go out with friends, get my nails done or walk along the beach. But there is ppl there! I mean i want to be truly alone in my own space and not look or hear another being! Im utterly miserable and starting to hate everyone. I do think im on the asd spectrum so perhaps others dont understand this? Honestly getting so bad im having suicidal thoughts now because its the only break i can see. I won't do it of course but i cant help the thoughts that come. Does anyone else feel like this?


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4 years ago
I take a day off every three months, kids are at school husband is at work. I don't tell anyone (I did once and was expected to use the day to do housework). I do what every I like all day, kids still go to after school care, I dress for work so nobody knows!

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4 years ago
She thinks you mean alone time as in time away from the kids I'm assuming when you mean time away from everybody. sometimes it's really nice just to sit and read a book with nobody else around bothering you and it's not very helpful but maybe put your phone on silent my phone is on silent all the time so I never hear when messages or social media ping

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4 years ago
Do you get any ndis help?

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4 years ago
Wow! That sounds full on OP. You certainly needa break regularly to just yourself. Your husband should be supporting you and taking some of the pressure off you and encouraging you to have a break. You must also talk to your employer about always having a lunch break. The old sayibg " you can pour from an empty cup" is so true. Make sure you fill up your cup. Easier said than done I know but maybe start with 5-10 a day. Go for a walk around the block by yourself, do a guided meditation away from everyone. You can build up to a night at a hotel if you can. The movie and massage idea sounds lovely but there will be people there too so not as helpful if you are looking for alone time. I also think you should talk to a counsellor or psychologist if you are not already. Good luck!

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4 years ago
What is wrong with some of these responses. Horrible, just horrible.

OP, if you can, go get a hotel room for yourself and enjoy! Lots of my mates do it, and they feel like a better mother for it.just as the other responder mentioned when she discussed her hotel arrangements.

Hope you find what you need xx

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4 years ago
Thanks for your kindness x

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4 years ago
You could see if there is a float tank nearby. I haven't done one but they sound so good. It's ok to want a break! Also, I think you need to make sure you have a lunch break at work. Put your foot down and make it happen. Or say if you don't get a lunch break you leave work early, and take that time for yourself.

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4 years ago
Thank you xxx ive done the float tanks and they are lovely once u get used to it! And youre right about the lunch break i need to enforce it. I dont get paid for it after all! X

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4 years ago
Oh hunny you need a break! I feel for you. Can you spend a night in a hotel?
And ignore all the troll comments, someone is very bored tonight!
I hope you get a break soon to really wind down before you explode. Don't be afraid to seek some help for your mental health aswell please. Xx

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4 years ago
Thank you i dont think i could leave my kids they need a lot of support but might look at a movie and lunch day and massage by myself when they are at school and take a day off!

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4 years ago
Ok, it may not be an option, but every 2 weeks, I spend a night in a hotel. I get Uber eats and my husband looks after the kids.
I have autism but high functioning, and this night once a fortnight makes me a good mum.
I order Uber eats. I have a sauna and sleep alone. I stay in the same place it’s $110 for the night as I stay on a Tuesday. Before this I used air bnb and paid $60 a night, but we make good money now and I like the extras in a hotel ! I get the same room now cos I’m such a regular. It has a spa bath and ocean views.
To be fair only one of my kids is more “full on” for me. Her energy is just always high and happy, which I LOVE about her, but it also exhausts me. She’s just all in all the time. And so affectionate. Which I do love her affection but it can overwhelm me sometimes. I know that sounds horrible. But honestly my night away has been a game changer!!!!

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4 years ago
Wow that would be amazing for me! I just need time to process and be. Thanks for your kind words and lovely you have a husband that understands