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How do you make your partner aroused again?

Answered 2 years ago

Have been together nearly 13 years and he has lost interest in my completely sexually. Told me he just isn't aroused by me anymore and its been that wait for around 6 months. Starting to really miss the intimacy. Any tips?


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2 years ago
I'd say he's been watching porn. This happened to me but I was the culprit. I became a little bit addicted and would "flick the bean" at least 3 times a day and just wasn't interested in my husband. We have since started getting creative in the bedroom and shits been getting pretty exciting lately. I'd say throw on a porno and start fucking yourself, not doubt he'd get keen then after a few throws at it, you've opened up those lines on communication and understanding so he may open up to you. It's a shameful addiction to have, trust me - thankfully I ended up opening up to my husband and he was understanding but I could imagine being a man with the shoe on the other foot, it might not go down to well.
Another option is that yes, he may be seeing someone else but don't just straight to that conclusion.

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2 years ago
I have to agree with this, in essence I think you’ve hit it on the head

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2 years ago
His attention is elsewhere. Does he watch porn? Any medical problems?

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2 years ago
He does and tells me it arouses him.

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2 years ago
^Maybe you can watch it together? Best of luck babe ❤

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2 years ago
I could understand that if you had been together 6 months not 13 years. Especially if your sex life together had been very active in all that time. To suddenly say you don’t turn him on any more is odd. Has any thing changed? Health issues For either of you? Weight loss or gain? Stuff at work? Is it even possible he’s having an affair? Something obviously is going on and rather than find new ways to turn him on you need to talk to him about what’s really happening.

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2 years ago
Nothing has really changed, and no real health issues. He is into "bigger" women (which I am) and haven't really lost or gained a significant amount. He only does uber delivery so no real stress there. I dont think he is cheating.

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2 years ago
Sorry to hear it’s a tough thing to go through. I’ve ended up in an affair so I’m not the best person to give advice. But your not alone.