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Guiding your children through life

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What age do you stop ?


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2 years ago
I will guide them for as long as they want me to

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2 years ago
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2 years ago
I Don't think there is a set age. I'd like to think that I will always be there to guide my children should they need it. My oldest is 26 with his own kids but he still comes to me for mum advice

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2 years ago
Do you give unwanted advice ?

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2 years ago
Only if it's warranted but generally no.

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2 years ago
There is a difference between unwanted, unwarranted advice and guiding children where they are open to it. My ex mother in law sometimes projects her controlling opinions on me. But sometimes I think it's done out of concern and she means well, other times it's because she feels like she has no control over her grandchildren or what they do and it's driven by that sense of losing a relationship with them.

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2 years ago
My in laws told me to send thank you cards to our 500 wedding guests
I said you must be joking

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2 years ago
^maybe they're trying to teach you to be thankful dear xx

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2 years ago
But I thought you are supposed to send them you cards, because that's polite

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2 years ago
My kids are teens and I feel this is the critical stage. Any tips from those who have been there.
So far 16 year old is enrolled in summer program in hospitality and will start casual work straight after at friends restaurant. Has her L plates and is learning to drive. Knows how to cook basic meals and can clean. She also exercises with me three times a week. 14 year old has chores but needs constant follow up. Both play sport, and learn musical instruments.

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2 years ago
What age will you stop guiding her ?

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2 years ago
When their brain is fully developed seems appropriate. So, around 25 years old. https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentTypeID=1&ContentID=3051

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2 years ago
I was thinking once she has a job and moved out.

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2 years ago
I still need guidance from my dad, I'm mid 30s!
I don't listen to a lot of things he suggests but I still take in a fair amount from him

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2 years ago
I don't think you should ever stop while you are a parent. Your children still need you at every age, even if it's just for an ear and some comfort.

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2 years ago
I am 42 & my Mum hasn’t stopped! It’s very annoying.