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Guilt
Answered 4 years ago
I think I cheated on my boyfriend of 8 months when I was drunk and I can’t remember only thing I remember was telling the person that I think I cheated with that I had a boyfriend several times, I was very drunk and I know this isn’t an excuse but I don’t know what to do as the guilt is killing me... I will never cheat again, I don’t want to tell my boyfriend and risk our relationship ending if it didn’t happen as I love him so much I’m heartbroken
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4 years ago
Sounds to me like you should be going to the police. No one can give consent in the state you claim you were in, who ever had sex with you took advantage of you at best, at worst they raped you. Seek help
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4 years ago
But she doesn't know if anything actually happened?
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4 years ago
Exactly... She needs to report what she remembers.
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4 years ago
She's not crying rape. She's crying because she cheated on her boyfriend. Cheating is mutual consent
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4 years ago
where is the consent. The law literally says you cant consent if you are really out of it
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4 years ago
Where in the post does she say it was non consensual? That's right. She didn't She is not saying anything except she cheated. If it was without her consent, im sure she'd be asking what to do next. Instead, she wants to know how to ease her conscience because she cheated and feels guilty
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4 years ago
Omg you women are taking it way out of context. She has not said she was forced into it. She has not said she was raped. She has not said "I think I was drugged". She has said she feels guilty for cheating on her boyfriend and how can she move forward
And honestly hun, tell him and deal with the consequences or bury that shit down deep and never do it again. Good luck.
And honestly hun, tell him and deal with the consequences or bury that shit down deep and never do it again. Good luck.
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4 years ago
👍👍
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4 years ago
Many examples here why it’s so important to teach what consent is at school. Amazing that a group of (im guessing) adult, females dont know or understand this concept, also very scary and worrying.
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4 years ago
This post is not about rape. I'm positive you can read (afterall you did respond) but how's your comprehension?
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4 years ago
You poor thing, this sounds awful. I think you need to talk to someone about what happened, maybe a therapist?
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4 years ago
You won't cheat again.....until you get drunk again. How can you be sure that it won't happen again?
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4 years ago
this
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4 years ago
What a fucking cop out. You need to tell him. What if you gave him a disease?
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4 years ago
This woman is not responsible for what has happened, where is your empathy? Compassion??
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4 years ago
How is she not responsible? Unless she was drugged. Which we don't know. But if she was drunk and did it she is 100% responsible.
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4 years ago
Lol -
‘Drunk and did it, 100% responsible’
FAAAAARRRKKKK OFF!
The man who had sex or attempted to have sex with some one so affected by alcohol is responsible and should be reported. This woman can not have given consent under the circumstances.
‘Drunk and did it, 100% responsible’
FAAAAARRRKKKK OFF!
The man who had sex or attempted to have sex with some one so affected by alcohol is responsible and should be reported. This woman can not have given consent under the circumstances.
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4 years ago
I used to drink a shit load in my 20's and spent most of the weekends drunk. I never once cheated on my boyfriend.
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4 years ago
The OP didn't say she told him no. There is nothing in her post that says she fears she was raped. The post is about her guilt for cheating on her boyfriend. Stop putting words in peoples mouths and stop trying to read invisible shit between the lines. Just answer the friggin question
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4 years ago
Why are you all assuming she was raped? Where does it say that? She got drunk and cheated on her boyfriend. She's admitted that. And honestly the "I don't remember"* I don't believe. She remembers but she doesn't want too.
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4 years ago
^^ This. Op is asking how to deal with her guilt. That's it
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4 years ago
Also everyone is assuming that the guy wasn't also totally drunk. Curious who people would accuse if both people are in a state where they can't consent.
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4 years ago
Yes you're right, not an excuse.
If he'd done this, would you want to be told?
If he'd done this, would you want to be told?
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4 years ago
Thankyou 👏
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4 years ago
Sounds like you were taken advantage of, if not outright raped. If that’s really the case, you should go to the police and tell your partner what happened. If you are not going to pursue that route, and put the blame on yourself, it could also colour the way your boyfriend sees it. Get an std test and seek counselling if you have ongoing worries. I wouldn’t tell him (unless you decide to pursue charges etc, it will cause more unnecessary turmoil for you. Hugs xo
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4 years ago
If you’ve truly learnt your lesson then don’t tell him. But don’t ever do it again. That means never letting yourself get so drunk you don’t know what you’re doing. If you’re not prepared to do that then he doesn’t deserve you.
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4 years ago
This sounds bad but when I used to indulge in too much alcohol I would get flashbacks sometimes a few weeks or months later. So the shame is neverending but it might give you some clues at a later date. Thank god there were no sex related issues with me just stupid stuff I said or did.
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4 years ago
Do you think your drink may havebeen spiked? If so you should report it to the place you were drinking at and police.
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4 years ago
I’m so sorry this has happened and I hope you are safe.