I don’t think you can have an affair with someone who is committed to their partner, married or not.

There are issues in relationships where one partner strays and ultimately they are better off apart but stay together for the kids or financial reasons.

Sometimes there are also serial cheaters who can’t help themselves.

My husbands workmate was cheating on her husband for two years. She finally left him for her affair guy only to be told he didn’t want a relationship with her, he was happy the way things were. So she was left alone. She cried on my husbands shoulder. He gave her comforting words she wanted to hear and she latched on to him. She knew he was married with three kids but she wanted what I had. She called him several times a day, texted many times a day. Tried to convince him that he’d be happier with her. He had to block her number and delete his fb account to lose contact. She was desperate, lonely, and tried to get him anyway she could. She didn’t care about the little kids lives she would destroy.

Because people are selfish, greedy, want instant gratification, don't give a fuck about anyone else, just want what they want NOW without considering or caring about how their actions will effect others.
Look at society as a whole. No one gives a crap about anyone else anymore. Not just in regards to affairs, but in regards to everyday life and the future!
We are selfish, self entitled, greedy pigs!

I’m in my affair to keep my family together. I tried absolutely everything. I couldn’t leave, I couldn’t take my children away from their father. I found a married man in the same situation as me. Neither of us want to change our situations. He has given me back my self esteem and my happiness. It makes me a better mother, worker and wife. If I ever get caught out I’ll work through the fallout, I was well aware of the risks before I choose this path.

1> accessibility and availability
2> it’s only ever the fault of the person in the relationship so the question should be “why won’t married people stay faithful
3> there is a million reasons why kids can be fucked up and a marital affair is not one of them.
If your kid knows about the affair that’s on the adults fault. And even still if both parties treat each other with respect (including the person who was disrespected with infidelity) kids aren’t as heavily affected by divorce as they can be.
When people get cheated on they seem to think it’s then ok to let the kids “know exactly what their mother/father did, and exactly who was responsible for their family breaking down” and it just puts way more hurt than initially on the kids.

Hating your kids parent is hating half of your child and that screws kids up very very deeply.

Adults who can’t process disappointment and hurt show their kids how to process it poorly too.

Affairs have become easier to have but it isn’t necessarily more common. People used to turn a blind eye to it because then they could keep their family together. Now that women can work, have access to childcare and can support themselves and their children they are more than likely to walk away. And men are less stigmatised for if their wife has an affair rather than they were 50 years ago. Rather than cover it up and hide it, people are now able to say a big fuck you to those who cheat and get out of that toxic relationship.

I think too many people see photos of other people’s lives on social media and compare themselves to others. For example a women sees that another women’s partner has done something really nice for them and gets jealous and thinks she can do better. When the reality of the situation is he fucks up often and only does it to get out of trouble. Most people are better off putting more effort into there relationship and take responsibility for there own happiness rather then blaming others for miserable.

Affairs haven’t become common, still the same amount that happened 30 years ago.
Only now is that everyone finds out easier from social media.

There are alot more selfish entitled people in the world. They think they deserve happiness even if it last for 30 mins a day & destroys those that love & trust them. They don't care. They have no impulse control- see, want, have. Like credit card debt - see, want, have with no thought to the consequences.

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