My parents couldn't help us, which is fine. But we live very comfortably and while our children are only young we are already planning to give them a big head start in life. They are our children and we want to help them in anyway we can. And if that's with a house then lucky them :)

I think that If your parents are in a position to assist you’re very lucky. Mine a like children, I’m always helping them.

I’m talking more about the kids doing the right thing and using money given to them in a correct way. But more so the living at home. I tend to see ppl getting bagged out for living at home and saving say while they are in the 20s. Coming from a woggy background it’s normal for kids to live at home up until they are married sometimes, this is a good opportunity to save as expenses would be quite low. I don’t see why this would be a negative because I didn’t move out when I was late teens early 20s. I used that time to start setting up for the future I didn’t see it as sponging off or using my parents and they didn’t expect me to move out they were happy to have me there. I guess my question as well is why do we expect kids to move out so young these days as well ? I know we want them to stand on their own 2 feet and adult but with things so expensive these days and it is so hard to buy a house are we sending them out there to struggle? I just don’t want that for my kids I’d rather have them home a bit longer help them buy something and they can pay off a mortgage while living with me and not having to pay a mortgage and rent. Not sure if it makes sense

It isn’t a bad thing to help out. But it’s wrong for those people who got help to bag out others who are struggling by saying they are not working hard enough. My sisters inlaws are always bragging about how they are business owners. And everyone without their wealth is beneath them. They won’t even have anything to do with my parents because they are just your average people working hard to make ends meet. The in-laws don’t admit that they received 3 million when they sold their parents farm AND a two storey house in an affluent area AND their parents bought them their business. A business that they don’t even work in. They kept the same staff on board when it was bought and they just sit back take the profits while going on about how hard they work. They would never be where they are today without parents help. And good luck to them, lucky them, but they shouldn’t be arseholes to others less fortunate.

Elton John is not helping his kids in future or leaving them his money

My daughter is 19 and living at home. She can stay as long as she likes. She’s my child and I’m happy to help her out. My parents didn’t help me but they weren’t in the financial position that I’m in and that’s ok.

The people responding in the negative are jealous. It isnt a bad thing. My parents didn’t help me, but I’ve been saving since my first was born to be able to help mine.

Some people seem to think they're important enough to be seen as some sort of pinnacle, as they make their unwanted opinion then try and verify it to the effect of 'I never received/asked for money from my parents. I did everything on my own'.

These people need to go about their own business and not involve themselves in the lives or decisions of others, which is an all too common scenario these days.

If you need help/can provide help, there's nothing wrong with that.

Speaking from someone who lives “silently” wealthy. It only causes jealously. People often complain to me about how “the other half live” having no idea I’m in a trust fund. I used my parents wealth that was given to me to create a life that makes them proud. And me happy.
I grew up middle class with two episodes of my parents being broke. The money came flowing when I got into high school and catapulted when I was in my 20s. I think my parents feel a bit guilty for having to work so much when we were younger building the business we now all benefit from. They take us on holiday every year with my siblings and all our partners and children. But when we grew up there was not money for holidays: I think this is them enjoying their family now. And the trust fund , well if I can give each of my kids a few million for a house an make sure my children’s children’s children Will be set up to achieve in life I would too. As it turns out my parents were the ones who laid the ground work. But I also paid the price as a kid. In a time where almost everyone’s mum was at home my mum worked, often till dinner time, made us dinner put to bed, and I only connected my memories and talking to her later would work till 2 -3 am. And this at the time was mum supporting dads dream, and being entrepreneurial, working for no pay.
They deserve their wealth. And they want to give it all to their kids to see them enjoy it as adults, since we gave a lot as a family when we were younger.
We’ve all be told if we ever act ungrateful we will be completely cut off.
If you raise kid well, even with money. You don’t raise spoilt kids.
We are all small business owners and do well for ourselves. Our parents helped us achieve our goals EASIER and FASTER,but I can tell you we watched our parents and know what hard work looks like. We would have come up with that first 20k regardless. Rich parents just skipped us a few years and gave us extra holidays. Intrest free loans ect. Because of the example in our own home we’d have made it anyways.
I’m eternally grateful I get to enjoy my kids in a way my mother missed out on: and if I were them I’d do what they’ve done 100tines over for my own kids .
My parents were 15 when they had my brother and dad has never worked for someone else.
He and mum are the hardest working most loyal humans I know.
I’m so proud of what they acheived. And my children adore them as much as I do.
I’m proud to be from a wealthy family because I grew up watching what that took.
And my parents have pointed out in recent years, that I sacrificed for that wealth in my childhood too.
Often people don’t realise wealthy parents kids pay a price too.

I think kids should be taught how to be financially independent and not to waste money. Then when they get their inheritance later in life they can either retire, use it to build more wealth or leave it to the next generation. Part of becoming an adult is the independence you get.

I think it stems from a place of jealousy.

No help from parents and still managed to buy a house and travel overseas with 2 children on a 9 month holiday around Asia.

Both earn very average wages but it's always been a case of It's not what you've got it's how you use it.

I don't mind if parents help their children as long as thier children can manage money well to begin with and aren't just wasteful spenders.

It’s fine to help as long as it doesn’t come with strings attached or control.

I would like context on this sort of question, I really would. I have criticised people for receiving payments from their parents, because they don’t admit it and claim that they got ahead in life because of hard work. I see it all the time too. My neighbours parents bought each of their five children a house and they will inherit a lot more...but he is forever going on about how he has to do everything himself(financially support himself) and how he has nothing to fall back on. It’s some part of an identity he has created for himself to make him seem like life is tough on him...it always angers me because it is not true at all, and he tells it to everyone. Am I jealous? Yes I am, but I get that parents support their child, it is a beautiful thing. However, not acknowledging it because you don’t own the 2million mansion is sick

We have a trust fund for our kids that we set up years ago. On this site though, no matter what you do, someone is always going to be unhappy