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Home maker/full time mum/homeschooling
Answered 3 years ago
ide like to chat to those mums who have dedicated their lives to being a homemaker, full-time mum, and homeschooling.
how did you deal with this life decision not being accepted by the family? the fact that women need to be studying or working even with children is a must these days and I won't accept that for myself because it's not who I am and I don't believe it's the reason im on this earth.
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3 years ago
I am a mum to four kids (9,12,16,17) and I am very traditional at home in the roles we have. That being said I also have worked full time since my youngest went to primary school.
As for all this “fuck what others think” yeah that’s all well and good but sending your kids out to get an education gives them much more than just the education itself.
Also in this day and age it’s fabulous you think you should be the caregiver but what if your husband leaves or dies? You will have no work experience and no education to fall back on. Big mistake!
As for all this “fuck what others think” yeah that’s all well and good but sending your kids out to get an education gives them much more than just the education itself.
Also in this day and age it’s fabulous you think you should be the caregiver but what if your husband leaves or dies? You will have no work experience and no education to fall back on. Big mistake!
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3 years ago
I'm an SAHM by circumstance, not a desire I had. I used to have a career. I notice I am now talked down to & even left out of 'intelligent' conversations. Now my youngest has started school I'm getting comments on when I'm returning to work, inferring I'm lazy. I also got judged because DH & I travelled & built careers in our 20's & didn't have kids until our 30's.
I ignore it. I've learned not to let others' opinions dictate my life. If I worked atm our family would disintegrate. If we hadn't travelled first it looks as though we never would have. I do everything now because DH works long hours & we have an SEN child with multiple therapies. We don't want our kids in after school & vacation care. That's our choice. We live it. We can afford it because we saved, we get no government assistance.
Ignore it. Live your best life. You'll be judged no matter what choice you make.
I ignore it. I've learned not to let others' opinions dictate my life. If I worked atm our family would disintegrate. If we hadn't travelled first it looks as though we never would have. I do everything now because DH works long hours & we have an SEN child with multiple therapies. We don't want our kids in after school & vacation care. That's our choice. We live it. We can afford it because we saved, we get no government assistance.
Ignore it. Live your best life. You'll be judged no matter what choice you make.
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3 years ago
I’ve had a lot of judgement and a lot of expectations put on me and while I haven’t done the homeschooling and homemaker deal it’s the same premise. Fuck what anyone thinks of your choices. Are they the ones picking up the pieces while you’re depressed that your life isn’t what you want it to be? Are they the ones who will be there when you need a helping hand because you have too much on your plate while trying to meet their expectations? They don’t get a say in your life unless you let them. You need to brush them off, come up with some witty and hilarious come backs and just learn to accept that you deserve to live the best life for you. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior, bad or like you don’t deserve a choice in your own life.
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3 years ago
thank you so much for your words. i really appreciate it, its speaks a lot when you try so hard for others and fail what do they give you? nothing. thank you