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Bet he’s an angel around other people
My Ex MIL was in denial about her only child being abusive
I recorded a video and she said what did you do to make him hit you ?
Found out she was in a DV marriage
I'm in a similar situation, just without the drinking. Constant yelling, perpetually in a bad mood, grumpy, everything bothers him, lazy slob just creates more work for me and won't lift a finger to do anything round the house, I'm constantly pushed around and spoken down to. And I have no money to leave. I don't have family or many friends around that I could go to and everyone thinks he's such a great guy coz he acts so nice in front of everyone else no one would even beleive what he's like behind closed doors.
We tried counselling 2 years ago but he decided the counselor was an idiot and was wasting his time so he refuses to go anymore.
I honestly dread him coming home after work each night, it's so peacefully when he's not around.
I don't know what to do either but I wish I could give you a hug xxx
Secretly Record him
Common situation, they never yell at you in front of friends. My marriage ended after 25 yrs, I kept thinking it would get better, they don’t change and it pulls you down - I never had a positive comment from him! Get mental health plan from GP as suggested above, get counselling for yourself And build up your strength and resolve. I took my kids with me!
Yes your own bank account! I’ve been separated over 3 years and the weight off your shoulders is amazing- I use to dread him coming home, and it was hard being positive around the kids. Now I can be myself!
I feel for you - I’ve been there and eventually left the relationship when I couldn’t bear him anymore and knew that things wouldn’t change - and I realised he was also unhappy because why would a happy person yell at their children and drink to excess? (tried counselling and anger management techniques but he would revert back)
I’m assuming you’ve thought of counselling first - only if you want to try it or suggest it to him?
Definitely organise your own bank account then contact Centrelink and apply for assistance.
Do you have family/friends you could stay with in the meantime?
Me too I’ve made an exit plan and will be leaving soon I have had enough