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Do you think private primary schools give kids an edge?

Just a question, mine three are still babies so I’m asking mainly out of curiosity.


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I think it comes down to individual schools and teachers. You could be at the best school but have a crap unmotivated teacher and it would show in the students. Or you could have a brilliant teacher at a crap school and the kids would shine. It doesn't have much to do with public or private.

 This is so true
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 Its worth checking out the local schools to find which ones have a good reputation, and buy in the catchment area. It does make a difference to the house price, but you get it back at sale, as long as the school is still good.
Often the quality of the school is driven by the quality of the headmaster or headmistress. Its all in the leadership.
A good school can make an enormous difference to a childs achievement.
Also, I got told by a mortgage broker that private school fees are the biggest reason for people being turned down for loans. The fees are often only half the cost. There are very expensive excursions that are close to mandatory in private schools - like to Japan for 2 weeks for the students studying that language.

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When I went to Uni there were a lot of kids from private schools who discovered the opposite sex for the first time, and went completely wild, and failed almost all subjects in their first year.
This included students who had not just gone to prestigious schools, but were touted as brilliant, meant for great things etc.
Most of those of us from State High Schools breezed through, because we knew how to study for ourselves and were not used to needing someone to basically stand over us to make us work.

 Same plus at a state school I already had a couple of boyfriends and was used to the attention of boys. A lot of new uni friends it was like seeing a boy for the first time.
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 I went to a private school and did really well at uni as did all my classmates.
What I found was the difference is most of our class went to uni whether they really wanted to or not.
The same can’t be said for public schools so they makes a huge difference

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They all have to meet the same curriculum framework standards. You send them to private if the environment suits you better than public.
A child's education success is more whether parents encourage kids & help them understand why it's so important. This study might help:

It won't guarantee behaviour success either. My friend has a 12 y/o teenager at a 20k a year school. He's stolen money & done horrible, nasty revenge things to his parents when his ability to game at all hours was taken away. It could happen at either public or private.

I am a teacher and would say save your pennies until high school, depending on your catchment ...(depending on your areas) often there are less high schools around to choose, I'd rather use the money as a back up in case I need to find a half decent high school. That's not to say public ones are crap, I would say there is more variation from school to school in terms of what's on offer extra-curricular e.g. some public schools are strong in dance / drama / music / eisteddfod, others are more sporting schools, others are more mixed..some do have a better reputation and some have a higher rate of bullying etc. so if needed, I'd rather spend my money at a place and at an age where more kids are more likely to stray / to make sure they are at a place where that is less likely to happen and there is more available relevant to their interests/needs/ ability/social skills etc.

 P.S. that doesn't mean I believe private schools are the places that offer all of that...I went to a great public high school that had a great balance and was wonderful, but I'm just exploring high schools in a new city and it's completely different and a lot harder to find what I want in catchment that's public. So, I'd rather have funds aside should I need to go private but don't really want to.
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No, it’s about finding the right school for the individual child. My eldest went to an average public primary school and a very good secondary school and got a ninety five for year twelve. I also think they need to have a school in who they like their teachers, peers and school in general to help motivate them to do well.

No but I reckon the parents who pay for it thinks it does

If you mean will they they likely be more successful over other kids long term, no probably not. If you send them to a top private high school they will start networking and having a school like that on their resume will open a lot of doors down the track in particular fields, that kids that didn't go to a fancy school won't get even get a look in.

 I used to work in tertiary education & future jobs etc. was a huge focus of my job. If they go to uni no one cares any longer what high school they went to.
Networking is done via LinkedIn & other professional networks. People move around so much that the 15k a year (minimum) school where I live wouldn't even be recognised in another state.
I'm not saying it's completely gone, but networking via the old boys' system is not a reason to spend lots of money.

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 If you look at employment projection you will find it's very much the case for some fields. In most cases it makes no difference, but in a select few you need the connections.
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No, I removed my son from private after a year. He went backwards and putting him in our local public was the best thing ever. Look up the schools and ratings etc not wether it’s public or private

I’ve got three kids and I’ve learnt that the primary school you choose isn’t really that important. I think as long as your kids can read and write and do maths at the correct age ability then that’s all that matters. You should get that at any primary school ( unless you have learning difficulties ). The real learning comes in highschool. As a lady responded above, you could have awful teachers in private and brilliant in public or vice versa. My kids are in public school doing brilliantly, my niece and nephew are in a top private school and are either failing or just managing passes.

Edge as in? They give them more of the good things, but it always depends on the child. I tutor year 6 level at a private school and I don’t know if I’m imagining it, but I notice the children who have come from local primary schools are more blaancdd