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I don't think it is appropriate in any way for a 10 year old child to watch pornography.
He knows what sex is obviously so no need to watch it.
I strongly suggest you adjust your internet filters and start supervising his internet usage.
Can I just say OP , that you’ve handled these comments really well. You’ve shown respect even when people are being awful. You sound like a good mum and it’s great you’re asking for advice. I have a 14 year old son. I’ve never caught him looking at porn but he probably has. I’ve never caught him playing with himself, but who knows! He’s a great kid and has no issues coming to me to discuss things like sex. You’re son might be a bit embarrassed at the moment but keep the communication lines open and he may start talking to you about it. I personally would ask him not to look at porn sites and tell him they’re not realistic but if he’d like some sex Ed books then you could get him those. I think you need to look at age appropriate teachings of course. Good luck.
Have a chat while shooting some hoops - activity & not looking at each other directly.
Tell him you needed to use that device yesterday, and noticed some things pop up, e.g. Ads. Ask him if he knows what porn is. Explain it's not real, they are actors & not really having 'fun', sex is much more than that - e.g. creating a family, enjoyment that a couple share together, it's about feelings & respecting each other. Tell him masturbation is fine, healthy, normal when puberty hits, your body is figuring out how it works. Maybe share some stories that could be helpful, building friendships/ relationships, how do you see girlfriends, wives, mum's, (as in who do you see yourself getting married/partnered to, what if you have kids / daughters, online safety. Discuss at his level, you know him best. It's a tricky conversation. I found talking about puberty, sex, online security easier the earlier you started (level appropriate), when it's not embarrassing, just the normal next step in their growth. Goodluck
We have filters that stop them looking it up. Once they are old enough to pay for their own data they can look up what they like.
Are you sure it's the 10 year old watching it? Is there anyone else in the house that may be watching it? We have a family device and i found porn in the history and automatically thought it was hubby. I quickly showed him how to delete browser history when he told me it wasn't him, it was our 15yr old son. That was an awkward convo! Hey son, let me show you how to delete your history so that your sisters dont have to see this...ok... yeah, great.
10 is way too young to be watching porn. I stressed when my 14 year old starting watching it but no way would I allow my 10 year old too. Your child needs to be supervised better and child-filtering software to be put on all devices in the home.
Supervise your kids
Be careful with porn. For kids it has been coined traumatic for a child to watch, and like all traumas a child then feels they have to keep watching it to understand and process what they are seeing. Especially when men are demeaning women and women are liking this.
Hi guys sorry I’ve looked at my question this morning which had been written very late last night. Firstly, I monitor his internet usage quite closely. And this is the first time I’ve seen pornography in his browser history. I’m not giving him permission to watch porn, nor am I ignoring the issue. I just wanted to know how I should word the conversation about porn with him. I have had the sex talk with him last year but this is just all new to me. And I will be adjusting the internet filters on all my devices.
Kids are curious and learning about their body's no need to clutch your pearls and faint.
Of course you should say no to your 10 year old watching porn. On the off chance you aren't a troll. SUPERVISE YOUR FU****G KIDS.
Reminds me of a guy i went to school with. His mother found his dirty book stash under his bed soo she got out a vivid and put clothes on them all lol. Maybe have a look at some family friendly browsers to download or one of those netnanny apps.
Just block it, it’s not appropriate at all. But don’t be nasty when you speak to him. Just nicely explain. He’ll be over the conversation before you know it