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Why would he not share with me?

Answered 3 years ago

I have a male work colleague and business partner. He lives in Melbourne and I live in Gold coast. We are very close friends too. I tols him when i was pregnant 15 months ago. We talk a lot, daily, text hundred times a month etc. He never asks me about my husband and kids, like he completely avoids this topic. Never mentions his partner etc. We have been close friends and colleagues for 5 years. He rang me last week and said he had a baby last week. I was like “wtf ?” He said “ im sorry i really wanted to tell you blah blah blah. But im hurt that he couldnt find one time in 9 months to share this. I even seen him face to face in this time. Now i feel odd amd dont know what to think? I shared my cancer diagnosis. Chemo treatment everything with him. Im hurt he couldnt share this news with me. Now im thinking of cutting him from my life on basis that i cant be that important in his life.
Any advice?


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3 years ago
Agree with comment below, he probably just came to terms with it around the time he told you. Personally if this happened to me I’d only want to keep a business / professional relationship from now on 🤷🏽‍♀️

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3 years ago
OP here. Agree with you.
I also just found out he for married 12 months ago and I had no idea. I just feel like an idiot as people keep asking why i didnt know as we were close.

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3 years ago
My husband didn’t tell anyone in his circle when I was pregnant because he really struggled to come to terms with it himself. It took a good few months after the birth for him to bond with the baby (they are great now), but he wasn’t ready for this baby at all. There’s a long story behind all that, but maybe your friend was struggling to come to terms with it?