Son worried he doesn’t have enough male friends
Answered 4 years ago
My 11 year old son has always been really feminine and has always just gotten along better with girls (totally fine with me, I couldn’t care less whether he hangs out with boys or girls). However, he’s gotten a little insecure about it lately, the other day he came back from his friends house (first time he’d seen her outside of school since COVID started) and started telling me how he wishes he could be friends with more boys. He’s never seemed insecure about it before and I’m wondering how I can best support him and help him make friends with more boys. Sports could maybe be an option but the only sport he kinda likes is netball, he played on a team last year and was the only boy (he also wasn’t very good at it but hey he tried his best)
I should mention he does have one male friend who is really sweet and doesn’t judge my son’s effeminacy, maybe he feels this way because he wants more friends like him? Who knows, it’s just very confusing because he’s never acted like this before.
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What about basketball that is similar to netball, just enroll him in a boys after school team. I always make my kids try something they haven’t done before if I think it could help them develop. They are terrified at first but if they like it they are grateful. If they don’t we finish the season and at least we know what didn’t work but they gave it a go.
At our local library they have 'Lego Club' on Saturday mornings. I think they may have a Minecraft club but I'm not sure.
There are plenty of things for boys. Cub scouts? Souts?
Sounds like he's maturing and realising he's not ad interested in things that the girls he knows are.
Don't be worried mate, its pretty awesome he's got his own self awareness of his interests and he's figuring out who's similar so he can seek em out to be mates with.
You're a good mum 🌻