I don't want to say this to upset you, but is it him actually checking people out, or do you think your feelings of inadequacy are making you feel more insecure about the situation?
I say this only because my partner used to accuse me of this, and i literally have never looked at anyone sexually ever because I'm not that kind of person, but just smiling at someone in the shops because we're both in the same queue was enough to make them feel insecure. I have NEVER cheated either, unlike them. And heaven forbid i text my children's biological dad regarding the kids welfare because my partner would tell everyone, all his friends and work colleagues that i was trying to get back with my ex or giving him bjs. I guess texts like "i don't know what to do with our son anymore, he got caught smoking at school and is suspended for the 6th time this year" is pretty much having an affair right?
Anyway my point is, is there any chance you're overreacting and it's innocent?? Or is he definitely creepy husband 😔

Really loud say “ what are you staring at”. Then people will look at him and he’ll get embarrassed. Do it everytime .

Hugs. I see this happen when men look at me when their partners are next to them. Sleazy lingering ogling stares. I feel nothing but rage. I’m so so sorry he does this to you. You deserve a partner who knows how to look and look away and move on with his life. Creeps everywhere

I'm not sure what to say but I am single and I see men doing it all the time, I'm just average but if I'm spruced up a little men randomly do it, like even in the shopping centre with their wives. Like passing them in the aisle. It's gross and I just ignore it. Sometimes you can just 'feel' a lingering look and look to notice someone looking. I always put myself in the shoes of the other chick. People say women should just get over it and not be jealous but I always figure you never know what happens at home. For all I know she could be super confident and not give a fuck OR he is a real bastard behind closed doors and diminishing her self esteem so I don't really want to add back to that by getting a 'kick' out of being checked out from someone else's man.

and he's trying to make out it's all in your head, prob so can complain about you to his friends

If it's any consolation, I hate hate hate it when guys walking with their wife and kids stare at me, makes me feel incredibly uncomfy and so grossed out and Im certain most women feel the same 🤢

I see sleazy guys all the time. I always feel sorry for their wives. Why do they do that? Why make your partner feel low? Are they insecure themselves? Are they immature? What is it? I don’t get it...

This is a red flag. One thing to look at a girl with big boobs etc kind of cant help it lol. But looking at their eyes and smiling is wanting a connection and with u there! I guess if hes going thru a mid life crisis maybe he wants to know hes still got it and checking to see if they check him out but its still shitty behaviour. But if its more than that imagine what he does when yr not around like if he goes to pubs with his mates he prob goes up and flirts, or worse sadly. I would def keep an eye on him and clearly let him know its not on. If u have put on weight thats got nothing to do with his shitty behaviour girlfriend its all his insecurities. Trust me. And we are allowed to get older and be older u dont have to be the same as when u were 20!

Its a male thing they all do it

I seek eye contact with people when out, not because I fancy them but it’s just a connection thing.

Wandering eye, or making eye contact?
Making eye contact is different from perving on women's bodies... I understand it's making you feel uncomfortable but are you sure it's wandering eye?

He doesnt have a 'wandering eye' or a 'roving eye', hes a sleazebag.

He's looking for a connection with someone else. I would be worried. If he's that desperate when he's with you imagine what he is up to when your not around.

This is really not fair. OP, I have been in your situation and what your feeling is spot on - some men check out other women to make their own partners feel insecure. It’s horrible and you deserve so much better.

I would seek a second opinion, someone to also point it out to him and you...pretending to notice it and ask him what’s going on,

This would really bother me too. I don't know what's worse, that he is doing it or is making you feel silly for bringing it up? I would say you need to speak to him again and if he can't respect how you feel then you should re-evaluate your relationship. I hope you're ok xx

Leave him