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What age do you think children should attend a funeral ?

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1 year ago
Depends on how close the kids are to that person.

Although that said, my sister didn't bring her kids to our pop's funeral (says they were too young at 9 & 11) but took them to the partners pop's funeral a few months later.

I had attended 4 funerals by the time i was 11 (including my mum's). It didn't seem to have any negative impact on me 😂

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2 years ago
I feel this is something only the child's parent can answer

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2 years ago
I think it depends. My kids haven’t been to a funeral but nobody close to them has died. My husbands auntie died who they had briefly met once and I had maybe met 2 or 3 times and I was told I was ridiculous by my MIL for not taking them. They were 4 & 5. If it was someone close to them I would have taken them then but didn’t think they needed to be exposed to a funeral for someone they didn’t really know at that age

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2 years ago
It depends, if my kid had a relationship with them, I would take her at any age. My daughter was 4 when her father passed away and she was by his bedside. Many family thought it was inappropriate and didn’t even think she should be at his funeral let alone his death. But she’s now 10 and has a level of emotional maturity around death that is admirable. She was devestated again by the death of her nan a few years later, and again by her grandfather last year both of whom she was very Close with, she spend every Friday night at their house. 3 months ago she had the horrible experience of one of her close friends died in a car accident at 10 years old. She has coped remarkably in comparison to her friends, which I beleive is not only due to her experience with death, but also that I never sheltered her from grief or mourning. She’s not scared of it because she knows how it goes more or less now.

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2 years ago
Your daughter has experienced more loss than any child deserves, but she sounds very lucky to have you as her mother to help support her and guide her through her grief.

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2 years ago
Any age, especially if it’s a parent or sibling someone very close to them who has died, it is so important for their grieving process to be there.

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2 years ago
Any age!
Agree with the other poster that death shouldn’t be a hidden thing, nor taboo or not discussed.
I come from a family where the deceased were viewed in the home before a big service and burial. Come one come all and then there were the photos of you were not able to make it.
I think it comes down to displaying appropriate behaviour and making sure you have appropriate answers for some of the questions that will come up ... and they do.
My father died in the home after a battle with cancer. My youngest son (12) asked if we could have a little holding pen at the front door so when he reanimated as a zombie he could see him and have a chat before and after school each day. You really can’t tell what they are going to come out with.

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2 years ago
it depends on the child and their relationship to the departed

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2 years ago
My Grandmas funeral was a few weeks ago and there were over 10 children who attended ranging in ages 15 to 1 years old. It was a very long service and one of the toddlers had to be taken outside for a bit but all the kids were great. My G'ma loved babies, she loved kids and she especially loved her great grandbabies...she would have wanted them there💕

My kids have been to 4 funerals, the first one they attended they would have been 5 and 2 years old. I spoke to them a lot about what was going to happen at the funeral and about how people will be feeling/ emotional etc in the lead up to the day. We also always tend to sit to the side, usually near an exit in case one of us has to take a child outside. I don't really think that there is a 'right' age to take your child to a funeral, every kid is different, every family is different!

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2 years ago
Just had my nans funeral. Over 100 family members including babies and toddlers. All kids behaved beautifully. No noise or crying.

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2 years ago
Any age.

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2 years ago
Any age. I don’t think death is something that should be hidden

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2 years ago
When I was 8 my parents thought I was too young to go to my dads dads funeral and year later my aunt died and was allowed to go

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2 years ago
Depends on the parents grieving too I think, maybe they wanted to grieve without you there for the first one

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2 years ago
My child attended at 11 but obviousky could sit still and had perfect manners. If your child cant so either of those wait until they can. Also when they can understand what is happening

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2 years ago
Our dd was 9 when she attended my mums funeral

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2 years ago
Any age

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2 years ago
Depends on relationship to the dead person

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2 years ago
It really depends whose funeral it is