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Is giving a handjob cheating?

Answered 14 days ago

At the start of the year my girlfriends threw me a “Naughty Forty” party - complete with a stripper - at my house.

Part of his dance had me sitting on a chair while he danced around me. I was quite tipsy so started to fondle him a bit. We all got carried away and most of us would give him a bit of a handjob as he danced around the group. This ended with me wanking him until he finished in my hands (with a bit i missed squirted on my boobs and top).

We all had a good laugh at the time, but I do wonder how common this is with strippers and private parties...? Has anyone else had these types of things with strippers or should I be ashamed...!?)

PS I did tell hubby about it and at first hen didn’t believe me, then was somewhere between turned on and amused.

Have any other women done this??


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9 months ago
Im curious about the other part of the question - how common are the “extras” when you have a stripper at a private party? Ill be planning a Hens Night for next year. How often does this happen?

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9 months ago
Yes me too!!

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12 days ago
I’ve attended a party where I thought boundaries were being crossed not as bad as this though.

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11 days ago
In what way were they being crossed? I've had friends go to these and say nothing happens, and others who say stuff CAN happen. Would love to know what you have actually seen??

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14 days ago
Way to respect your marriage 👍

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9 months ago
If your husband's okay with it then it's fine I guess. Mine would not be.

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9 months ago
This. What works in one relationship doesn’t in others.
Your husband was fine with it so I don’t think it was cheating.
My husband wouldn’t be ok with this so it would be cheating.
Cheating is doing something in a relationship that the other person is NOT comfortable with you doing. It has nothing to do with other people relationships.

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15 days ago
I agree. I'd always be thinking if he is okay with it and now knows he may now take a free past card! What's good for you he'll think may be great for him too!

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16 days ago
YES

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16 days ago
No

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9 months ago
I think this ia made up story

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2 months ago
I have a few gym buddies that are strippers, this is common when the chick ‘are hot’

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4 months ago
YES

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4 months ago
You were open and honest about it, and your husband doesn’t seem bothered by it so I would say it’s not cheating. The same but reverse happens at bucks parties and no one condemns the dudes for it, so all you Karen’s being rude to the poster should take a good hard look at themselves

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4 months ago
This makes you and your friends sounds like a bunch of ho*s.

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9 months ago
If the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel? If hubby received a hand job from another woman at a party???

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9 months ago
My god! Where did you get this stripper from? This is a disgusting story. Yes, of course you cheated. You made another man cum in front of a bunch of friends. Have you no respect for yourself? Or your marriage? Be thankful your husband has no self worth either. It looks like you got away with it.

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9 months ago
I think you crossed the line. And I think you know it too or you wouldn't be asking. A stripper is for a hens night or bucks night not a birthday party and not a married person that is just tacky. You know you did the wrong thing so admit it move on and DONT so it again. Btw your husband being blaise about it speaks volumes he is probably getting some on the side.

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9 months ago
Yeah I wouldn't be happy if my hubby did the same with a stripper. To me it is cheating. But everyone has their own ideas of it.

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9 months ago
Do you feel like you’ve cheated?

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9 months ago
I wont even give my husband a hand job lol

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9 months ago
🤣🤣🤣

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9 months ago
How would you feel if he went to a rub and tug joint and came in another woman’s hands? The fact that he’s not too worried about what you’ve done suggests that he doesn’t think that it’s cheating and may have done similar things himself.....

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9 months ago
Pretty gross.

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9 months ago
Yes

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9 months ago
Would you be happy if your partner fingered a stripper ?

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9 months ago
It’s interesting, because of the number of women present if feels different when you tell, but to me this is still cheating. I wonder when they parties when groups of men they think it is not cheating too, since there are a number of men present. I would feel uncomfortable in this setting but each to their own

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9 months ago
So gross

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9 months ago
I think you could have got away with it until you made him cum “in your hand” ;)

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9 months ago
If it wasn’t talked about BEFORE it happening with your husband - or at least those sort of boundaries (or lack thereof) agreed to beforehand ... it is definitely not ok.

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9 months ago
Would you consider it cheating if your husband fingered a stripper till she came?

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9 months ago
I think it is. It’s still another man his job is to strip not receive sexual favours from you. What’s so different to him and just giving a random a handjob your still wanking off another man that’s NOT your husband. It’s a sexual act. Kudos to him though he even got paid for it

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9 months ago
If your husband is ok with it, I wonder where he thinks the line is with female strippers and if he’s been there. Just a thought.

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9 months ago
I personally would not want to do this with another man drunk or not. If you and your husband are ok with it no point worrying about it now. It is good you told him it would be worse if he thought you were hiding it.

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9 months ago
I think it’s cheating