Absolutely it would, the initial hormonal rush runs it's course after about 2 years.

There's a psychologist who's done a ted talk on it, I wish I could remember her name and share it because hubby and I stumbled upon it and watched it together and it totally changed our relationship for the better.

It absolutely only lasts 2 years. It would be the same in every relationship you ever have. You can get it back though.

Thanks for your reply ladies. I prefer to keep working on it, date nights, taking care of my looks, kind gestures and doing things for him and buying him gifts he likes. He helps me with the cooking and helps clean and do laundry because he knows I would prefer that to a piece of jewelry. I get hit on all the time and whilst it is flattering I just couldn’t bear the thought of hurting my husband or someone else’s wife especially when they have kids. I don’t hold it against the men it’s in their biology I suppose.

So when they move out you have a choice to make.. either work on the relationship and fall in love with each other again or leave.

Totally understandable! We’re not rich either, but definitely better off with two income household and being able to provide better for kids than being a single mum- esp if you leave then he goes off and starts a new family. If things aren’t bad, no need to leave and f things up for your kids because you’re no “in love”. Besides, marriages go through cycles - I’ve only just started to fall in love with my husband again after about two years of feeling pretty meh about him.

You sound like if you both put some effort in ( and not even very much) you could be in love and great together again. Yes things happen in the past but your still there. Why not try to at least be happy. Also contentment is happy, it is a happiness that will last lifetimes

Not OP of this answer, but i understand her point of past problems. I feel a similar way about my husband. He had an affair. I don't want my kids to miss out, & he's already benefited from my parents Estate/ my inheritance

He cheated on me.
We fell pregnant when we were going through a “one last chance” holiday.

It’s been 9 years and while I’m actually feel like I’m over the one night stand something changed intimacy wise and I never really got back to that good place.

There’s been moments, but there’s just been a blocker there since.
We’ve got two beautiful kids and I’d never change him as the father.

I won’t be surprised if we split when the kids are older.
He’s done everything he should have to make amends but his formative years were just so fucked up I don’t think he has 50 years of monogamy in him.
he’s a good man, but hes been breaking all his mind sets since he met me.
He’s come a long way but I’m not sure he will ever get to that place where if placed in a position that was too tempting he would say no.

And if he does it again I won’t have a choice but to leave so... it is what it is.
I’m not unhappy with our life. I share a life with a good friend. 🤷🏼‍♀️

What is an actually romantic dinner? Because i've eaten dinners in restaurants with partners but i honestly can't say they've been romantic. Fun & delicious yes but never romantic. Maybe it involves expensive candle lit restaurants that i can't afford & don't know where the hell they are. Am I alone in this?

How long have you been with your significant other because all that shit stops honey lol

Just get an affair partner 🤷🏻‍♀️

The grass is green where you water it ladies x

One of the most romantic dinners I've ever had was spent naked, eating Hungry Jacks together on the loungeroom floor with a movie on in the background. We weren't staring into each others eyes or any other cliche crap. It was like "fuck this is a good burger. That wedding was shit". Haha good times.

It's a movie thing

I did.

Same here.
How did it work out for you?

It was fine, kids have a great childhood, and I didn't have to struggle to feed them.
I ended up leaving as I will inherit money soon and I don't want that to go in the family pot to be split. I think I stuck around long enough to avoid my gets getting half siblings.

I like your theory & i agree. It's all in there somewhere you've just gotta work out how to get back there - if you care enough that is.