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Toilet training! What to do when they hold on?

Answered 2 years ago

DD is 3 in July. We’ve tried toilet training a few times in the last 6 months. She’ll tell me she needs to wee/poo, will sit on the potty/toilet but nothing will happen. She then holds on for a ridiculous amount of time until it hurts then cry. She doesn’t have accidents anywhere (i would prefer it if she did!).she can wear undies all day without any accidents & when she asks for a nappy will go straight away in the nappy and goes look mum I’m doing wee. I’ve tried giving it a break and trying again, bribery, sticker charts, we’ve read books and had lots of conversations about it. I’ve also tried getting rid of the nappies completely and saying they are gone but still with the same result. She knows wee goes in the potty and will happily tell me all about it and give it a go but nothing ever happens. I’d rather her have accidents Atleast then I could guide her to the potty! She also won’t wee outside, in the shower/bath or in the pool. We’ve tried lots of reassurance and no pressure


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2 years ago
Mine was the same with number 2s refused to go we ended up at the doctor & having to get medication to help him poop, it was really painful for him. Just let it go. They'll get there when they're ready.

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2 years ago
Have you tried sitting a nappy in the potty? So she kind of sits on it but it's not attached to her at all.

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2 years ago
Stay strong and don't give in. X

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2 years ago
You need to completely refuse the nappy. She knows she can hold on because she will get her nappy. She can't hold on forever and when she does go on the toilet, potty or even in her knickers (not the nappy) massive praise. Children are so smart and she knows she will get that nappy so she waits. Good luck, it won't be easy but you can do it!! Alot of children are scared, once she does it, it will get easier x

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2 years ago
We had to play hard ball and refuse the nappy. Its upsetting to both but necessary.