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Trust my gut and run?

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Its almost 2 years together now. Im unhappy, u got told today i embarrass him. Im obese and i wanted an egg made in oil in the pan. He lost his cool im killing myself i will cause him to be left alone. Im selfish. This is not the first time he has outbursts. It is always what he wants to do, i cant do anything alone unless he organized a girls day out for me otherwise he sulks and doesn't make me forget it. He always lift his fists and makes like he is going to hit me. This morning he actually lift ut and placed it ion my jaw and pushed hard back. I told him to do it again i will f*ck off. He says im wasting my time with doing my masters studies as it will be irrelevant, actually already is irrelevant. And he refuses to apologize im the one that is wrong and friends picked up im not looking happy he states get over your mood you are ruining my day and you are upsetting me. Not the first time he said that i am ruining his good mood. I am never allowed to feel blue or down and when i answer him in a fight with facts i get told take your sh*t and go. Then he forces me to kiss him and all is now happy again. He drinks like fish and cant get it up at night or some mornings he us hard and it doesn't stay hard its my fault. Im to fat and heavy on top but he doesnt make any effort to have sex its my duty. I dont want to live like this. Im so scared on what mo9d im going to trip off is he gonna scream or be nice and friendly. Note in public he will never say anything to make him look bad but boy oh boy he lets rip on my flaws i actually should not have gotten into this relationship ive given up all off me. I do everything to ensure he doesnt get pissed off


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1 month ago
This is abuse.
He is abusive and you need to leave.
You are not a good match for each other.
You are clearly intelligent and he is not at the same level as you- people who are abusive have low self-awareness.
You need to love yourself so that you will not accept being treated like this.
You do not love him. You cannot love someone who treats you like that, what's happening is your self worth is low and you're trying to gain it by giving him the currency to give to you. Take back the currency, you don't and will never find your worth in someone else.
Beat your emotions, use your logic and leave.

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1 month ago
stay strong, push through & GET OUT NOW! you deserve better x

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2 months ago
That's where it starts where does it end. My husband tried to kill me and got 6 months probation on the GC. Breaches DVO constantly you won't be safe get out before it gets to that

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2 months ago
Leave. Run. Don't look back.

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2 months ago
GET OUT!

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2 months ago
I think you should get some counselling and look at leaving.

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2 months ago
There's more red flags here, than communist China, love.

Cut and run. He is all sorts of abusive!

I've been with someone like this, and it gets worse.

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2 months ago
100% this

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2 months ago
Always trust your gut. It never lies. It's saved me a few times. Leave that guy he sounds like a waste of space.

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2 months ago
Make a plan. Put money aside. Call a women's DV service for support & get out. Because it is domestic violence.

Everything he's doing is to control & isolate you. It's escalating to threats of violence. Only a matter of time before it becomes plysical. All the put downs, especially about study, are to stop you improving yourself so you're independent of him. So get out & live your best life. You're not what he says.

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2 months ago
Totally agree. Make a plan & leave. DV & counselling will help you. Try Relationships Australia, they are great & you can self referral.