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There are millions of Christmas presents under the tree - but not one for myself.

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I've cooked, I've cleaned, I've saved and bought Christmas presents for my partner and four kids - three of which are grown up - and not one has put a gift under the tree for me. This will be the third year with zero Christmas presents. I hate doing the big present opening and everyone having a go - but not me.


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9 months ago
Please let them know. Send them all a photo of the presents under the tree, with a comment “ wonder what I will get this year?”

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9 months ago
Buy your own, & wrap it and put it under the tree, I did. At least that way you'll have something to look forward to as well. Then think about why you are still in that relationship.

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9 months ago
That’s sad

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9 months ago
I love giving presents and making sure everyone is happy. I buy a few presents for myself stuff I really want and I look after myself nails, eyelashes, Botox, facials, exercise and socializing so I’m not really worried if I get a gift or not. I have teens who are somewhat in consistent so I don’t take it to heart. I also know that I am difficult to buy for so I don’t get offended if my husband hasn’t got a clue. It is quite amusing to me as he always buys me stuff he would like if he was me and had no real idea what I like.

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9 months ago
Buying your own gifts doesn’t stop the sadness of being ‘not thought of’. Ive been in that situation too. A small gift to show that’s someone loves you and thinks about you would be so nice.

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9 months ago
Buy one for yourself & tell your H you're sad you had to buy it yourself. Ask 'does anyone have one for me?' make them uncomfortable!
Next year, tell them you expect them to reciprocate or agree not to exchange as you feel hurt not receiving after giving so much. If they say yes, then don't gift you, don't buy the following year for anyone. If you don't pull them up on it what reason have they got to bother? It's so easy to let ourselves in get in that selfless role. My DM had a mega tantrum one year when we were kids. DF now buys her random stuff she'll never use, but he tries.

Assert yourself or they'll never have a reason to change!

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9 months ago
Maybe you should buy a couple for yourself from yourself. It sucks that you get forgotten on Xmas day. Appalling really. But a couple of presents you have bought yourself gives a pretty massive hint.

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9 months ago
Tell them how many shopping days they have left and go buy yourself some fancy as well

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9 months ago
Go buy your own present wrap it and place it under the tree.

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9 months ago
Tell ur partner that. Hell buy yourself something.

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9 months ago
That sucks.. I think it is time you head out and buy some things for yourself.. I would proclaim that I knew no one was buying me anything so rather than feeling crappy you took it into your own hands.