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I don't like my step kids.

I have been with partner for 5 years. He has 2 adult kids that have left home and one teenager with us half the time. I am nice and friendly to them all but secretly I don't like them. The older one is just so arrogant and self entitled, he talks to people like shit and is very alpha male. The next one is on ice, steals and there's always strange things that happen when he's around like a pet bird disappearing, window breaking or taps breaking and he swears he has had nothing to do with it. The youngest walks around like she's better than everyone and talks to my partner like crap. Very spoilt from her mum she gives her whatever she wants without earning it. Their mother is a narcissist and I think they are all products of that. My partner is nothing like any of them, they just walk all over him. Can I learn to like them?


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You don’t have to like them but you should always be polite and welcoming for your husband’s sake.

If you don't like people, you don't like people. But you'll have to fake it cos it's his kids at the end of the day

I don’t believe you can. Nor should there be any obligation that’ you should. You feel what you feel. However, you can always be kind and polite.

Sometimes I don't like my own kids. You just gotta suck it up and enjoy every minute away from the step kids you can 😂

 Sometimes they don’t like you
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You only have an obligation to care for the non adult one. It is your home too, tell him they make you feel uncomfortable and you don’t want them coming over. He can meet them in other places to see them. When the daughter turns 18 do the same with her. I’m guessing you see her every other weekend? Can you plan time with your girlfriends or exercising when she is there? You could limit your contact to a couple time a year.