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Do you struggle with the idea of ageing?

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2 years ago
No it’s a privilege denied to many.
Iv seen way more than my fair share of people die in my 36 years.
Lately I have excelerated in age.
It doesn’t bother me, my life is so rich, always has been so my looks haven’t concerned me much since my early 20s.
Even in high school, though I had insecurities to work through ovcourse but I came to accept myself through travelling.
I’m a really decent human being. Iv put a lot of work into my self over the years and I’m very proud of the life iv built.
I’m curious to see how I grow, evolve, how life shows itself on my body and my face as the years move on. I hope I can tell grandkids one day about how all my lines came to be.
Most all my friends get Botox or more. I just feel like if I take away my crow lines, I’ll erase my stories of years spent on beaches are the world , the two wrinkles under my eyes and from the sleepless nights I spent breast feeding and stroking my kids to sleep.
My hands are weathered from so many surfs with hubby.
By back and chest is triangles with freckles and aging skin and fine wrinkles forming all over from years spent sitting on the beach watching my kids enjoy life.
The wrinkles forming near my hairline were born in the grief of losing my 6 year old nephew.
The forehead lines became noticeable deeper while my mum battled cancer for 2 years ultimately losing.

I’d love to experience grandchildren, to see my children realise finally how deeply I loved them.
I’d love to see how my husband looks at 60.if he passes away before me I wonder how it might feel to find love again to go through those first days weeks and months of a new romance.

But if I leave tomorrow, my life has given me enough.

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2 years ago
This is my first (and probably only) reply to a message on here, but I wanted to tell you that what you wrote is perfection 💗

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2 years ago
What I saw in your reply is adventurer or someone dreaming ...
Someone who is dreaming to find new positivity ...
Someone who is dreaming to find new love at the age 60...

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2 years ago
Lol no desire as yet to find new love, I would be one of those women who’s single for a long time if hubby and I split or he died, but I do find the thought intriguing, because it’s something I don’t expect to ever experience again. Aren’t you curious about how it would feel to fall in love after a great love? To experience feeling you never would again?

More excited to see hubby at 60 though. He’s one of those guys who is definatly getting hotter and I think might peak in his 40s. He’s got dark olive skin, is still ripped and is getting white streaks that look sexy dammit. Me on the other hand, well lets just say I was the hotter one for 15 years and now it appears life has decided the next 15 will go to him 😂

And we still go one many adventures, almost every weekend. And all over the world.
I feel like I’m finally tipped a point though where life has given me more than enough, anything past here is just over the top blessings.

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2 years ago
God no. I'm gonna age gracefully 😜

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2 years ago
You don't have any wrinkles yet

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2 years ago
I just get Botox

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2 years ago
That shit's expensive

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2 years ago
Only if you have no money

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2 years ago
I asked the same question to the lady above, but was just wondering what age you started with Botox?

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2 years ago
Well i'm saving for my future so vanity isn't something I want to pour all my money into. If it was cheaper I might consider it.

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2 years ago
^ Its not always about vanity

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2 years ago
Um this isn't a post about medical issues. It's a post about aging & if you get botox to fix signs of aging then how is it not about vanity?

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2 years ago
I’m 43 and started last year. It’s was the angry crease lines between my eyes and a few forehead wrinkles. The more Botox you get the less frequently you need it. About $300 every 3-4 months

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2 years ago
Thank you that was actually helpful. Who knew that could happen around here.

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2 years ago
I feel less worried about it as I get older, ironically because I felt like I had achieved more of the things I wanted to. I'm a bit scared of dying early

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2 years ago
I get Botox and fillers and look after my skin and hair and nails.

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2 years ago
Do you mind if I ask how old you are? What age did you start using Botox?

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2 years ago
I only started Botox and fillers last year I was 46. Everyone is different I got to the stage where wrinkles would set in if I didn’t interfere. I am going to try to only do it once a year so I don’t get that pillowy, pouty look.

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2 years ago
No, I worry all the time that cancer or something else will take me before I get the chance to grow old ...

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2 years ago
After having my two boys, literally a year apart I’ve gained a lot of weight (which I’m currently working off) and I feel like it’s made me look 10 years older and I’m only 23

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2 years ago
Not unless I want to change careers and become a medical receptionist like the lady in the other thread!!! 😂😂😂

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2 years ago
This is pretty funny.

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2 years ago
No im not worried about it, but i look about 10 years younger then i am, so that probably helps. At most i slightly worry about my health as i get older, but not my appearance, i love wrinkles, especially when they are ‘smiley wrinkles’. I grew up with a VERY shallow mother who was and and still is OBSESSED with her appearance, even though she has always been ‘typically beautiful’ most of her energy goes into how she looks, i made the decision at about 6 years old, not to be like her on that regard and i have been free of that shit all my life. Luckily though i guess i would also be considered ‘typically beautiful’ so i accept that and work with what ive got, but i am free of the obsession of beauty and staying youthful, and for that i am grateful. I enjoy the scars, the odd grey hair, a bit of sag etc. i find it interesting to observe.

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2 years ago
“No, but I look 10 years younger...” 😂😂😂 No offense but your response sounds incredibly vain and if you weren’t worried about agribusiness it wouldn’t matter if you looked your age - such a contradiction!!!

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2 years ago
*about your age, not agribusiness! Haha

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2 years ago
Vain, much??

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2 years ago
How does thinking you look younger than your years make you vain? It is what it is. I have always looks younger than I am, I used to hate it when I was in my 20s but now I’m in my 40s I think it’s awesome. It just comes down to a mix of luck, genetics and looking after your health... vanity has nothing to do with it. I’m definitely not beautiful though. Meh. Not all of us can be.

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2 years ago
It’s ok to be vain. I suspect most people are in one way or another. Don’t be offended by it. Oh and you did say in your original comment that “I guess I would be considered typically beautiful.” So I don’t really get why you are now backtracking...?

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2 years ago
^ I wrote the comment above yours and I’m a different responder and not the OP of this comment. I agree with what you say though. Nothing wrong with being vain, but as long as it doesnt lead to superficiality and to judge others based on looks. And yes, most of us are vain in varying degrees. . Most of us spend time and money taking care of our appearance so of course we are.

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2 years ago
^Yes, I think it’s pretty normal to care about your appearance. Agree re: judging ppl though.

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2 years ago
I am 26 and found one grey hair last week so yesterday I dyed my hair...I was going to hold out until isolations over but caved in. I ended up with black arms because I picked up the towel I had on my shoulders and now have stains all on my arms until they fade 😂 sooo I guess I might.

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2 years ago
Wouldn’t plucking offending hair strand been easier?

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2 years ago
Lol, cld have just put some mascarra on it

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2 years ago
I usually colour it every 6 weeks or so anyway but I was going to let it grow out to get it back to natural later on...but caved into the grey and the regrowth

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2 years ago
Lol

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2 years ago
Nope. Many people don't have the option.

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2 years ago
Yes I am terrified of growing old.
I would be happy to get to 75 then die as weird as that sounds

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2 years ago
Not weird at all. I'm hoping mid 70s too

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2 years ago
Only worried about my parents getting too old

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2 years ago
Yes! I’m fighting it with botox & hair dye physically (that’s easy) but the inevitability of death scares the crap out of me.

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2 years ago
Yes, but then I think about how ageing is a gift not afforded to many.

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2 years ago
I struggle with the thought of ending up like those in nursing homes, being fed and wiped and kept alive against my will...
But I don't know if that's fear of ageing process of fear or developing illness and comorbidities etc

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2 years ago
Love this ❤