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How often a month do you have sexual relations with your partner

Answered 2 years ago

Trying to work out what’s normal. My husband has a high sex drive. I’m sure he’d do it every day if he could. We probably do it roughly once a month. What’s a happy medium? I really enjoy it when we do i just can’t be bothered to start a lot of the time. And by sexual relations I mean sex and other ways of ‘getting there’

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2 years ago
Maybe 4-5 times a month, 1 or 2 times a week on average. I'm exactly like you, enjoy it once it happens but the thought of doing it seems like such an effort & can't be bothered. If it was up to me we'd have it a lot less but husband has high sex drive and would prefer much more often, like once a day. We meet more on my side than in the middle I think.

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2 years ago
Everyone has a different "normal". What is a good amount of times to be having sex is up to you and your partner to decide. The most important thing is to communicate about it though.

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2 years ago
Jesus, once per month??
At least 3/4 times per week here! I can’t go without 😂

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2 years ago
We've been together 6 years and we have sex at least once a week. At one very stressful period in our lives though we didn't do it for about 3 weeks.
We're early 30's.
Sex is good just to build the love hormones and keep the intimacy. I've had a "fake it til you make it" philosophy; so even if I don't really feel like it some times I just start anyway because I know once we get going I'm going to enjoy it and sex is important to the relationship.

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2 years ago
Are you bill Clinton?

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2 years ago
I did not have sexual relations with that woman.

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2 years ago
I didn’t want to right bj going down etc but thanks

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2 years ago
Ok princess

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2 years ago
Maybe once a month. I would like twice a week but his not keen.

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2 years ago
I'd say about 3-4 times a week, we head to bed pretty early most nights cause we are up early so last week had a lot of late nights so we were too tired but some weeks it can be 7-8 times just depends on if we get a chance

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2 years ago
I was the same as you. Never wanted it. I felt so low about myself (not saying you do). I started to work on my self confidence etc and now we have sex roughly 2 times a week. Sometimes more if we want too. It's taken time. About 2 years of me working on myself to get here though. Xxx

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2 years ago
I've definitely found we have sex more when I'm feeling good too.

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2 years ago
We have had sex once this year. I would prefer way more but he says that he is too old. He does get BJS though a few times a week.

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2 years ago
He's getting his thrills through BJ's, he doesn't need to make the effort to have intercourse. It sounds a bit one-sided. Try less BJ,'s, you might get more loving in youe favour.

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2 years ago
☝️I second that

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2 years ago
☝🏼I third that! Cut the blow job’s out.

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2 years ago
A month?

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2 years ago
4 or 5 times a week

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2 years ago
About twice a week. I would love more if my husband wouldn't drink so much. I love sex but I can't stand drink husband sex.

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2 years ago
I’ve been married for 9 years and the frequency of sex has varied greatly over those 9 years. There have been times when we were have sex every day then there have been times when we’ve gone a whole year without due to a number of factors including a difficult pregnancy and tearing from the birth. But, through it all, we’ve kept the communication lines open and shown love and affection in other, non physical, ways.

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2 years ago
Every day or every second day. The more you have it the more you will want or need it. Try doing it every day for a months see if you still feel that way .

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2 years ago
At least twice a week but sometimes have dry spells of a week or so if we have a lot on at work so extra tired or something. We get so snippy with each other if we aren't regular lol

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2 years ago
We are exactly the same. We both have high sex drives and when we are well rested and not stressed easily 5 times a week but still 1-2 times when stressed and tired

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2 years ago
3-4 sometimes more times a week. Make time for each other and don't let life get in the way

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2 years ago
Usually 1-2 times a week.
I would be happy with about once a month, but hubby would like it 3-4 times a week, so we meet somewhere in the middle.
We regularly discuss it and make an effort as we know so many couples that have pretty much no sex life.

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2 years ago
I’m not sure there isn a standard ‘right’ for everyone Id say what’s normal for you and your husband is what I sent normal..

For me and my hubby it varies a lot. The ongest we have gone without has been around 2 months. Other times we are doing it 2-3 times a week. But if I was to averaged it out I’d say twice a month.

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2 years ago
Maybe 2-3 times a month at the moment. We'd both prefer more, but our kids aren't cooperative haha.

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2 years ago
All the time. Mainly just for him.