Staying in an undefined relationship ?
Answered 2 years ago
Been with this person 15 months who I am happy with but we haven’t made it official. I’ve asked before and they said they don’t want to plan things and just go with it. It’s easy to advise me to leave but I feel like I won’t love any one else. Even if someone else tomorrow wanted a serious relationship doesn’t mean I’d want it. Advice?
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I would just feel like he is waiting for something better to come along. After all if he thought you were that important to him, he wouldn't want anything to get in the way of that, or lose you to someone else.
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Tell him to put up or F off.
You deserve better!!!
There are red flags for sure.
Feels that if I walk away that I’ll be back in the pool of bad potentials that my friends trying to find a committed partner describe.
I am worried about the current pool, and don’t think I can do better than him.
If you haven't met friends and family and don't see him except for dates, he may be reluctant to commit.
If you are a big part of his life and you've met the people important to him, perhaps he is just taking it slowly. Has he been burned before? Are there big unanswered questions in his future about where he will be and what he'll be doing, like a deployment or the possibility of an interstate job?
Friends and some family I have met
No hand holding
I don’t have any social media
Has been burned before
He is living 5 hours away for work so at the moment it is long distance