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How long is too soon?

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to move on from death of partner


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5 years ago
One of my parents died, the other parent was sleeping around and having flings from about 7/8 months afterwards. Maybe sooner but I might not know about those.
That was their coping mechanism. Might not be healthy or what I would do, but that's how they got through it. I'm not going to judge as
I've never lost the love of my life suddenly.

Anyway I think when you're ready to know. Maybe you think you've moved on, but it's just to fill the void left from the loss, maybe its real.

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5 years ago
There is no right amount of time. When you are ready, it is right. Different for different people. Don’t judge someone for not being able to move on after 3 years, and don’t let anyone judge you for moving on after 6 months. Some people need people to help them move on with their lives, and some people need to time to process their memories before they can move on. Different for everyone.

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5 years ago
THIS!
I have a friend who's husband passed away unexpectedly, and she was with a new guy 6 months later. They ended up only being a fling, she had a couple of other flings before meeting the man she's going to marry next month. They've been together now for 5 years and he's made her smile genuinely again.
Grieving has no uniform. It doesn't present itself in everyone the same ways. If one person grieves by jumping into a relationship, let them. It doesn't lessen the love they had for the deceased.

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5 years ago
I was watching a video the other day of a lady who had lost her husband. She said it perfectly. I can’t remember the exact words but it was to the effect of:
You don’t move on from the death of your husband, you don’t act like the never existed because they are with you still with everything you do. Be it in the children you created together or the love you found after their passing. Without them you wouldn’t have the life you do now, so yes they are still with you and with every choice you are to make because they were such an important part of your life. You move forward with them, you don’t move on.

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5 years ago
I had a cousin of mine pass away at 25 and her husband showed up to her funeral hand in hand with her best friend. My other cousin (her brother) smacked the crap out of him at the wake. With his temper and criminal history we were amazed he waited that long. I would say that was definitely too soon. He went on to marry the best friend and even went as far to ring my aunt and uncle saying that he didn't really love my cousin, he was only with her because of her money and he was glad she had died because it meant he could finally be with the new woman. Yes I totally agree that no one can tell you how long to mourn for and wait to move on, but I definitely wouldn't suggest doing that.