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Nice gestures for an already spoilt husband

Hit me with your suggestions on how I can spoil my husband without costing us a bomb. Please.
I already cook his favourite meals, clean everything and do all the things with the kids. He gets sex 5 times a week and the lead up to that always includes a blow job. I do everything for him except wipe his arse and chew his damn food.
Unfortunately, a babysitter is out of the question as we live across the other side of the country to our family and friends. We can't afford to go out anywhere either. As much as I want to spoil him, I'm at a loss how to make anything extra special. Haha I'm contemplating being a bitch to him for a few days so he can appreciate the ways I already pamper him. But I'd love your ideas. Is a back rub special? I don't know any more

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You could lick his toes. Maybe wipe his arse for him, hold his schlong while he pees you already sound like a slave anyway.

 Oh geez you know what, you're so totally right. This whole time I've been nothing but a slave for him with no reciprocation on his part, in any facet, at all. Lucky for me that you came along though, random internet person, lest I had continued to have enjoyed caring for my husband in such a manner. Oh how my eyes have been opened 😧
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Try and find out if he has any fantasies you could act out with him. Ignore the haters, the jealousy is strong in this post.

 And yes I probably spelt jealousy wrong. I'm aware haha
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 I hadn't thought of sexual fantasies, good idea 🙂
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 Spelt???? It’s ‘spelled’
And ‘jealousy’ 😂😂😂😖

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 I'm terrible and spelling. I'm not trying to hide that. But yes fantasies is a great idea, you could share something together :)
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 Actually both spelt and spelled are acceptable spellings of both the past tense and past participle of the verb ‘spell’.
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You f**k him and blow job Incase he leaves you ? 😂😂😂

 Nope, just reciprocating from when he goes down on me 🙂 nice try though
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Sounds like every day it’s his birthday? Why do you want to do more? A special occasion or just because?

 I just feel like it. He's been sick with a cold this last week and now he's feeling better I'd like to love on him a bit extra 🙂
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 DIddums. I bet when you are really sick he still expects you to do everything.
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 No he doesn't. When I get sick he steps up and takes over the housework and what I don't feel up to doing with the kids. He understands if I don't want sex. Why is this so hard for people to grasp?
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I'm honestly shocked at the negative responses here. So a wife likes to pamper her husband so what? If the roles were reversed and he was doing everything for her people would praise him for being so thoughtful. But yet this woman gets labeled a slave or a door mat. Is there a problem with caring for your loved ones? Isn't that what being a family is about? She said he works long hours, so he's obviously contributing too.

OP, maybe run him a nice hot bath, and give him a MANicure? My husband loves when I file and buff his nails for him. I don't polish them, but he also gets a little hand massage too.

 Thanks for your suggestion. I'm surprised by this too. I ENJOY caring for him. I LIKE pampering him. If I ever feel like he's taking advantage of me, I call him out. I'm not going to give up something that brings me joy, because some people online don't feel the same way.
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He doesn't need more spoiling. He needs to do things for the kids. He needs to help with the house work. You both need to change your ways because you are setting a bad example of a relationship for your children.

 Thanks for your concern. But we're both
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 *both quite happy with the dynamic. We're showing our kids that you should be happy in your relationship. There's nothing wrong with taking care of the people you love.
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 You are teaching your daughter to be a doormat and your son to be a lazy and domineering. Pathetic.
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 Well, here's my front door. Come on over and show me the "right" way? Better still, live through and experience every trial and every situation we've been through together, every life experience we've had separately, and every relationship we've witnessed, THEN come pass judgement and show us how you find enjoyment. Oh wise one.
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Massage? That’s all I’d want after working 10 hour days😬
Long term if you’re able to work it might relieve some of the pressure so he doesn’t have to work such long hours?

 Thanks for the idea. That's what I've been leaning towards. Tonight when he gets home. I plan on returning to work in the future once our kids are all in school
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I think this is really sweet. I’ve been really selfish in our marriage and I regret not focusing more on giving him his needs.

 Thanks, maybe you can get some ideas from here? I'm pretty selfish too in a lot of ways. But I try and balance it out with him
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Run a relaxing bath
Nice smelling candles
Relaxing music
Followed by a sensual body massage (google tips lol)
That will no doubt lead to mind blowing sex 😉

 Quality ideas, thanks.
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 Yes. This. Great advice.
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I think just a lovely card is all you need, it seems like your actions are speaking volumes about how much you care for him, he sounds incredibly lucky... please assure me it’s not out of insecurity because you are incredible otherwise

 A card is a good idea, thanks. I like to pamper him. He works so hard for us. This is my way of contributing to running our home. He works to keep a roof over our heads and food in our bellies, and I work within the house to keep things running smoothly.
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OP UPDATE: thanks for all the helpful responses. To those of you so confused by our relationship, please don't trouble yourselves. I ENJOY taking care of him this way. I ENJOY the way I live. It's no different than how you find your enjoyment (however that may be). He is an amazing husband, and he appreciates me just fine. This is how we work best. This is what makes me happy. If I wanted to leave, I would have done so.

What does he do for you I wonder?

 He loves me? He works 10 hour days in a physically demanding job to keep me and our children in comfort? He fu**s me right?
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 Wow. Sounds like a catch. Not. My husband works 12 hour shifts in the mines. Washes up the dishes after dinner. Gets the kids into their PJs and reads them a short story before bed. He does all of the outdoor maintenance. He comes grocery shopping with me. Days he doesn't work he will cook dinner. Does washing etc. Oh and we have 4 kids under 10. Stop making excuses.
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 Your poor husband has to do everything. What do you do to contribute?
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What about you? I hope you are as well treated.

 Yes, he treats me very well. He doesn't do the same things for me that I do for him, but he spoils me in other ways.
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