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Think honestly about why you want to tell him. You may relive your guilt, but it'll put him in a great deal of hurt & pain. This is something he'll NEVER get over or forget, your relationship will NEVER be the same.
I say this as a loving devoted caring & supportive wife, who's husband had an affair. I wish he never told me. He wasn't prepared to do the work to fix our marriage & reconcile properly. It's left me devastated, 6 years on.
Get tested & shut up, you've learned your lesson. it's your burden to live with the guilt & take the secret to the grave. Be the best wife you can be.
Whether you're married or not is irrelevant.
You are in a committed relationship. Be honest.
Wow so you slept with a married man twice? You gave no thought to his wife or children? Hmmm I think you reap what you sow on this one.
If you tell him you will either break up or relationship will never be the same. Live with the guilt. Also get an sti test. The guy you slept with sounds like a sleazy serial cheater. If you can’t keep your pants on, don’t get drunk in future.
Eew. You don't remember much but know you slept with him? Do you know if you used protection? Do you know if old mate had a giant herpe hanging off his lip? Do you know if he took photos?
Look, you made a very big mistake here. As tempting as it is to keep it a secret, you owe the truth to your FIANCÉ. You also owe him your loyalty, but that ship has sailed, so at least give him the truth.
Maybe he slipped something in your drink. Maybe he blew his load inside and you and you're currently up the duff or have some disease.
In my opinion, you have no right to let him base a major life decision off false pretenses. He deserves the right to know and make his own choice regardless of how painful it is to you. He may choose to forgive and forget, or he may end the relationship. Ultimately we are the masters of our destination but for you to withold vital information that may change his actions; you are manipulating him through deception. We only get one shot at this life and for you to let him make his based on lies is plain cruel and you are witholding his right to make an informed choice. I don't understand how people can do that to someone they profess to love. To me that is far from love; it is manipulation for your own gain. Because you don't want to risk him choosing not to be with you due to your own actions. None of us are perfect, but you can learn from your mistakes. And that may even mean you do not end up staying with the person you are currently with.
Just keep it to yourself and move forward with your life. You are still single and your intimate life is your own. If you think you are not ready to commit banish those thoughts and simply put your mind to it.
It will haunt u forever but if u tell him it will haunt him forever. Thats not fair. Don't tell him but get tested asap and stat away from that person. U did a really fecking shit thing by the way. My hsb cheated and ill never recover. Ever. I stayed but part of me hates him and always will. I will never trust him again
You have the choice to not do it, you have the choice to stop and not let him finish...
Just tell your fiancé so he can move on and get someone who loves and respects him.
Alcohol is no excuse
What a copout. I got so drunk and slept with someone else. It’s called self control. Just an excuse i think
sorry it will haunt you forever mark my words cheating even once is never worth it
Why weren’t you home ?