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I'm fifo and would never dream of hurting my husband like that. Disgusting that people would do that. Both men and women.
People who cheat on their partner will do so no matter what job they do. It is a fallacy that FIFO workers have more affairs.
My husband was fifo and had a 4 month affair... She knew he was married and didn't give a f**k, I tried to contact her many times when I found out, but she was to chicken to talk to me. Until she realized he wasn't going to move full time to be with her, Then she talked and sent screen shots of the conversations, and even gave her friends my phone. He told her everything things that I taught where private between husband and wife, she knew everything---which was the hardest part to deal with. It destroyed our marriage and family, I am still so angry about it. I don't understand how another women could do it, of course my ex husband is to blame but why would you want to be the other women??
Bigg hugs to you strong lady.
I'm actually like the nicest person, but after my ex had an affair, she had told people I worked with at once of my jobs that I was a heavy drug user, I was always doing drugs around the kids, I was using him and harassing his family, and bullying him, and I was a psychopath who would fly off the rails at him.
I was beyond devastated to hear these things. I don't even drink, I worked 3 jobs, sometimes 12/13/14 hours a day between all three jobs, starting at 3in the morning, to support my family and to support his lazy, shit a*s to sit around all day and f**k other people!
I used to think, if I was prettier, thinner, worked less, wasn't so busy, paid him more attention etc etc etc. But he still would've done what he wanted anyway and I still wouldve been the bad guy!
It is the cheaters fault 100%. Unless you are raped nobody forces anyone to have sex. If you have a gf/spouse/partner you are a cheater, if you are single than not your problem. I bet a lot of married FIFO workers take off their wedding rings.
Im not sure if this is what you want to know about but this is my story.
I was transferred with work to a fifo town, the town had a few pubs and it was a very social place. I met lots of different people there, there was some cheating but it seemed to be the same ones cheating and playing musical beds. There were a few married men in my group of friends and I saw so many photos and videos of their wives and kids I felt like I knew them!
A guy hubby was working with started hooking up with a cleaner at camp, his wife found out she was pregnant with their second child and he left her for the cleaner. He's now playing happy family with the cleaner but started doing FIFO in another part of Australia. I wonder if she worries he's doing the same to her
A good friends partner was FIFO and they had a one year old daughter together. One day he come home for R&R and says 'I'm leaving you and going to stay with my new girlfriend blah blah blah' . She was devastated and had no idea. The mistress was also FIFO and was on her R&R at the same time. She knew about his partner & daughter. Now my friend has to share care of her daughter with 2 people who have no morals.
I am I suppose.
It can get a little lonely in this town , I'm working her 2 more years so my kids and I can live by the beach mortgage free and I can give all my time to them.
My husband died 4 years ago when I was pregnant and so I'm pretty emotionally detached from sex.
Every few months I get the itch to have sex and iv got a few f**k buddies. 2 I know have a wife the others I would assume they do.
A lot of it just starts by me jndulgding in adult conversation and attention.
I was 8 months pregnant with twins when he dies and had a 3 and 4 year old.
It's my escape and its no strings attached. I don't want a new man in our lives till the kids are nearly out of home.
It's easy to detach from everything that's not about my kids.
I'd been with only my husband I was 15 when we met and fell in love.
My whole life was upped away from me so I feel emotionally dead to a lot of things. Sleeping with men is one of them-
What's your point?
I wanted strings free sex and married men were safer. I didn't want the relationship or commitment just the fun and freedom of no strings attached sex. There's no expectation of a relationship with married men because I've never asked one of them to leave their wives. They talk about them sometimes but that doesn't bother me because I don't want a full time anything other than my job.
And before the lynch mob come screaming at me with pitchforks I'm not proud of what I did, I was in a bad place but I had no commitments or vows I was breaking so if you want to look at blame, we were both to blame for the affairs but it's his choice to jeopardise his marriage and that blame falls solely on him.
Oh and it's not just FIFO husbands ladies, you'll be surprised how easy it is for the affairs to go undetected regardless of the job held by the husband.
Let the onslaught begin.
I wasn’t justifying any of it. I was just saying where and why and how I came about to be the other women.
Iv always been of the opinion and belief there is 1 person 100% to blame in a marriage breakdown due to affair, That’s the person in the marriage. I’m never the only one they sleep with. If you chose to be married to a man who couldn’t stay true to his word that’s on your own poor discretion.
I still see one man every now and then he goes home to his wife and kids. I think he’s an asshat and it’s damn obvious he’s a cheater. It’s purely a sexual transaction as I said. I take care of me and my family, my parents my brother sisters nieces....
not some woman I don’t know with a poor judge of character looking to shift that onto me.
I’m a wh**e who has slept with 6 men and I’m 38, I don’t plan on creeping up my number , it’s a few times a year and convenient.
Haters gonna hate, but it’s the married person who’s the one hurting their spouse.
I hope everything works out for you and your children. I hope one day your heart heals from losing your husband, it sounds like you really love and miss him.
One day I hope you can find your heart nourished by a man that brightens your smile and makes you happy again.
Thankyou to the last post, I do miss my husband terribly, More so I miss him as a father. All my hurt is for my kids. I got 15 years with him. Half our lives. My twins didn’t even get one day.
I understand how coldness it seems, but with 4 kids I’m in no position to meet another man. I won’t even consider a relationship until the littlest are on their way out of the home.
My kids lost far more than me, and they shouldn’t lose even more by their mother chasing a relationship.
I don’t have the time or the energy to give a good man what he deserves.
Iv always known how few and far between good men can be.
For the most part they just can’t see past their dicks.
I personally just can’t for the life of me how women can be blindsighted by a cheater, you can spot them a mile away, even the clever ones can’t stay hidden too long.
Their lack of loyalty shows up in many other ways first.
I haven’t been with anyone for months and actually think I’m good for a long time.
I can see a very long period of celibacy coming up.
I feel bad for the women that their married to assholes and they either don’t know or don’t car or don’t know that there is better out there.
I have fallen for a fifo man he has a wife no kids 'yet' he says. I work in accounts and have my own kids so I am not on site all the time just short trips. He will bribe the cooks to get us special food delivered so we can spend the whole evening and night in his room it's just an escape for both of us we don't message or call each other ever we don't have each others numbers. he will only see on the schedule or airport buss sheet if I'm coming in sometimes I've surprised him sneaking into his room. It's just some fun for both of us. His wife probably knows but is too busy spending his money to care I'm guessing.
My hubby is FIFO and I'm always sure he would never cheat... until a post pops up on DLS about someone loving FIFO men. How do you know, I'm sure every FIFO wife feels their hubby never would. Makes me sick thinking about it
Surprise visits for the drive in drive outs! Look his email up on have I been pwned for Ashley Madison
cheaters use whatsapp easy to delete call history. Watch his behavior around phone. Download blue tooth tracker to find hidden phone in car or just search the hell out of it claiming that you are cleaning it.
I worked fifo. I was and am still married and I never did cheat on my hubby.
But yes unfortunately I saw ALOT of cheating. Wives and husbands.
It's a different life, you can leave your old life at home and be who you want to be without any responsibility.
But in saying that there was just as many faithful spouses who wouldn't hide their family.
When you meet a guy you only learn what he wants you to know about him. You can ask, but you take the answers at face value. No-one says he is happily married but looking for a bit on the side. In the end, you decide yourself if you are looking for a genuine long term relationship or if you are looking for a distraction. If a guy is going to cheat, you can’t blame the girl. She isn’t married. Girls don’t go out looking for a married man - they look for an available man. If she is looking for a distraction, it may end up being a married man. But he is not her target, he is just insisting he is available. If she is looking for a relationship, dhe will avoid him like the plague. No one eill willingly take on a lying cheater.
^ what she said