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I know the moral implications of lies and omissions so save your fingers by not typing your opinion about how wrong my thought process is. I want to break up with my fiance. Im pregnant. I dont want him sticking around just because im pregnant. How do i simultaneously break up with him...and fake a miscarriage so he leaves me. I just want to have my baby and live in peace with my children. He seems to not be understanding the words " i dont want to be with you, please leave.

I have 2 children from previous relationships. He has 1 from previous relationship. His baby mama is obsessed with him and has caused me to be scared of being with him. She might come throw acid at me or something. Shes batshit crazy obssessed, to the point shes claiming to be pregnant.

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First of all, do not fake a miscarriage that is just a completely horrible thing to do to a person. You want to end the relationship, thats fine, but don't destroy his relationship with his child before he/she is even born.

Find a way to get him to understand that you don't want to be together anymore, random people on the internet can not help you in this situation as we know nothing about you or him, your situation or your relationship. You should either move out or have him move out. If things get abusive or you are scared for your safety then call the police

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You want to fake a miscarriage?! And you're calling his ex batshit crazy? Sounds like he attracts them...

 Bat shit crazy by trying to make sure her kid can have a normal upbringing instead of being brought into its Dads and Dads exes dramas and threats? Smart move I reckon.
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 By alienating a parent from day one. If that’s what you wish have an abortion!
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 More like avoiding an abusive life for herself and her child.
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 Oh bullshit. Spineless and cowardly and I feel very sorry for this child, one can only hope they discover your true colours and despise you later in life
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 I am not the OP. How would you know shes bull shitting? He won't leave when shes already asked him to and if shes feeling pretty strongly about not wanting him around her child then I would say she has good reason to be feeling worried. Who are you to say what her situation is?
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 JUST because she wants out and thinks his ex is nuts doesn’t give her a free pass to make this decision on behalf of him or HIS child. She can always leave and to just lie in this fashion is disgusting. Unless he has physically harmed her than what she’s doing is wrong on every level. She knows too because she stated “morals” in the first part of this disgusting post. It’s wrong and there’s nothing more hurtful a woman can do to a man.
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 Oh bugger off. You're the one making disgusting comments to someone seeking advice and help which sounds like a desperate situation.
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 A desperate situation? Oh please. She needs to put on some big girl panties.
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 If this was such a desperate situation maybe she should have thought about what he is like before sleeping with this bloke. Op already has two kids, I assume he has spent time with her other two kids. What’s the difference there. It’s okay he is in their lives but not his own child’s.
op scrape up your dignity and sort this out without lying! The lie will hurt your unborn child much more than you will ever imagine!!!
If you don’t want him in the picture pack your shit up and move interstate, without telling him. This option still lacks morals but your child growing up knowing you told their dad they died?!?!?!
Are you hormonal? If so see a gp. If not maybe he thinks you are!

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Sometimes it takes getting pregnant to realise to are in a situation you have to get out of. I didn't my child's father I was pregnant, I just moved away. Best decision of my life. If you think it's not in the child's best interest to know the father then run.

 She has had this bloke around her two kids she already has... so it’s obviously been no problem till now
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 True colours don't show straight away
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 Like hers?
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 Like everyones.
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Move interstate while you are pregnant and don't tell him where you have moved to and don't put him on the birth certificate.

I moved interstate to keep my daughter away from her dad while I was pregnant.

 What was your reason for moving?
Did he cheat? Was he abusive?

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 Because he was crazy, had a horrendous temper, would argue until you agreed with him (much like someone on here) and apologised. He gas lighted me constantly, couldn't keep a job because he knew everything. If I did something wrong he would punish me. He would have made the kids life hell.
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 So you got pregnant to him because?
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 Because I was stupid and trapped.
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 Some of you ladies need to learn about abusive relationships before commenting. If you don't understand how someone could stay in a bad relationship or fall pregnant in one then obviously you have never had to suffer to the point where you feel theres no way out. Keep your mouths shut if you don't know.
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 Some women shouldn’t assume the man is a bad egg. You don’t know him, all the information provided has made the female look quite horrible and I’m very glad I never had a mother who did this, and yes my father was shit. Atleast he had the choice of knowing I existed because essentially the baby came from him, and is growing in her. That means it’s BOTH of their child and having a crap ex most certainly does not mean your a bad father.
Maybe you should stop assuming before commenting.
I think what this woman is doing should come with a severe punishment and I only hope he finds out what is planned because WOW.

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 ^ please live a little before posting your many comments on this question, a bit of life experience would be helpful. Also please see someone about your anger issues.
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 LOL
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 Yes she has anger issues, what ever you do, don't report her comments as they get removed. She gets so angry her head may explode. If you are really lucky she will start a poll about you.
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Just tell him the baby is not his. I totally get why you want to do this. If I could do my time again I would have done the same. Get a restraining order against both of them if you need to, good luck.

 I second this. Tell him you slept with someone else and he's not the father.
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This is such a difficult situation. Has you being pregnant made her more unstable? My ex partner had a child with a woman who had psychiatric problems. We had two children together and she was unstable on and off for years. She would shout and send threats via text or Facebook for months then be ok for a while. Once we got engaged she couldn't cope and would stalk me and shout at me, my partner wouldn't do anything about it because he didn't want to lose contact with the child they had together. It got too much when she broke into my house to take her child, and one of my kids got hurt in the process. I moved away with the kids and had to get court orders to move such a distance from their dad, and to limit his access to the area we lived in to keep them safe.
Op make sure you keep copies of all threats, and if possible film her outbursts. I suggest moving out the area if you can before the child is born, get orders in place early on limiting his contact (for example he can't take the child to his house or any place they may be unsafe). Good luck.

If you can move away just pack up tell him you lost the baby and move far far away. If you can't move and you may bump into him tell him the baby isn't his.

Ok so you absolutely can break up with him. Have the police remove him if needed. But you CANNOT lie anout losing the baby. He has a right to be in the child's life if you choose to have it.

Please stop breeding. Kids need all the love and support possible in this world, ideally from both parents.

 Sometimes children are better off without a parent
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 Of course they are, but the OP is obviously not in a stable relationship and may never have been, and should consider if it would be better not to have more kids till the are two parents committed to each other and the kids
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 I'm glad someone here is speaking sense. Not in a stable relationship is definitely a determining factor for having kids. NOT.
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 Yes sometimes children are better off without a parent, maybe the dad should swan into the hospital grab a DNA sample and pop in the following day with results and take the child. Never to be seen again!
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All you twats do realize dad has just as much rights to her baby as she does and not telling him your pregnant is selfish

 Horrible isn’t it.
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 Having lived what she is about to go through I don't blame her. It's much harder to run when the father of your children is trying to stop you, and force you to live in fear.
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 Nothing in the original post sounds as if he makes her fearful.
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 No, but him being in her life and her childs life could mean she is targeted by this woman. I don't know if her situation is the same as mine, but I wouldn't live in fear so my kids dad could be in their lives.
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 That’s plain wrong in so many ways.
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 You obviously have never been in this situation so I can forgive your ignorance. The kids dad can always move near us if he likes, but I can't live with a crazy woman who has hurt one of my children and threatens their safety down the road.
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 Well obviously not if you tell him HIS kid is dead.
Blows my mind how many sick women are on this site and parents. What the hell is wrong with you? It’s NEVER okay to hide a child under the disguise of being dead and it’s ILLEGAL.

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 Telling him the child died is definitely wrong, but I can understand why she would want to. The OP may have to spend her life in court protecting all her children from this woman, by moving a long way away. Unless the father is happy to move away with the op but lose contact with his other child.
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 He shouldn’t have to make that choice either. I’m sorry but GROW UP.
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 Not everyone enjoys conflict and drama. And no, of course no one should have to choose between children but in my situation there wasn't a choice. Unfortunately there was no compromise, to keep us safe it would have alienated his previous partner and resulted in the child being withheld from him. We tried moving and not having his child in our house so the mother wouldn't know where we lived, but my partner hated that and as soon as the child knew where we lived the mum did. It came down to me going against his wishes and taking out a restraining order against the woman, but that made her more spiteful. So I packed up and moved interstate, keeping my kids safe was my priority. Life isn't always easy, it's easy to sit back and tell others where they are going wrong, but unless you have experienced the fear that comes with a life like this you have no idea what it can do to a person. I don't agree with telling a father that she miscarried his child, but I would pack up and go.
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 There is no point explaining yourself, the person arguing with you and everyone else is bat crap crazy, and probably asked the question to start with.
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My husband's mum refused his biological father anything to do with him because he cheated. Wasnt anything to do with abuse or safety.

Please dont do it. Your child will end up resenting you for doing it and will resent the father for not "trying hard enough" to find them. Creates all sorts of issues for your child.

If you actually care about the child's future wellbeing you will not do this.
Leave him by all means if you dont want to stay but dont say you lost the baby or refuse him access.

If you both or he owns the house or you are both renting you cant just make him leave. If you are both being stubborn about leaving the house and you really dont want to live with him anymore you will just have to suck it up and move out yourself. If its your house only and not his and youve been living together at least 2 years you cant just make him leave either you will have to do a a property settlement.

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There is a special place in Hell for people that do this.

This is the most disgusting question and I’m genuinely appalled.

 I agree. How disgusting is it to even consider faking a miscarriage. That is just a despicable thing to do to a person.
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 I wrote this comment. If I saw this cow the only thing that would save her is the fact she’s pregnant. It takes two to make a baby and this is literally child theft. Vile bitch.
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 You're so invested in this? Why? Take a deep breath and take a step back- perhaps get off your phone and give your own kids some attention
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 They are asleep, in the same home as their father. Even if we were to split I would never remove him from their lives because it made my life easier. This child and the man deserve better and to be honest reading so many women defend an abhorrent act like this makes me see why the suicide rate in men is so high. Talk about heartbreaking.
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 Defending her because desperate times call for desperate measures. If I could go back to my pregnancy I would do anything I could to make sure my child did not go through what he has with his father. He is an absolute monster. Not all Dads are perfect, sometimes theres a very good reason why women keep their children away from their fathers.
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 And most of the time their isn’t. Sad but true. Men can be violent but women can be cruel. Prime example on this thread. Cruel.
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 How would you know that most of the time there isn't? You don't. Yes both mothers and fathers can be abusive. Usually the abusive ones are telling everyone what a monster their ex is.
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Don't fake a Miscarriage. Just tell him you want him to leave or will have to call the police to escort him out because that's how serious you are about breaking up.
Get a restraining order against the ex or move interstate if it is a concern for your physical safety.

 If you rent or own together they won’t remove one party just because one wants to break up! Unless their is physical violence. If you lie about that chances are there will be in the future
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