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Did you marry or partner outside your race?

If so do how did your friends and family react? My husband was born here but his parents are immigrants from China. It is amazing what some people say when they think the person they are talking about doesn't speak English.

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No. The older generations of my family are disgustingly racist. One of my first crushes was on an Aboriginal boy. I was told not to bother dating him because he wouldn't ever be accepted by my family. Furthermore, they would ostracise me if we dated.
We remained good friends and they don't know about the nights we've gone to bed together. I'm married now to an "acceptable sort", but still talk to my old friend. My children are free to date, f**k, or marry whoever they please. The racism in our family will die with the older generations. I refuse to be a part of it.

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 ^yes you're right. I should have written whomever. My mistake...
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 Whomever sounds pretentious
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 Amen 🙌
The older generations in my family are sickeningly racist aswell. Including my parents and inlaws, I'm sorry if you have to start a sentence with "I'm not racist.... But..." Well you are racist.
I myself just dont get it. I am Australian and so is my husband. But somewhere along the line we descended from somewhere other than Australia. We are all the same on the inside.
I have slowly changed my husbands way of thinking after him hearing his parents all his life. I won't tolerate it in my house!!!

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We are full Aussies and my son is with a Vietnamese girl. She is beautiful, he is happy and that's all that matters. We've all welcomed her with open arms.

 What is full Aussie? You can have parents, grandparents and great grandparents with a heritage that is a mix of such, Italian, Chinese and African and still be third generation Aussie. Australian is a nationality not a race.
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My beautiful husband is black and Christian from Africa and I'm white and Jewish born in oz. Luckily neither of our families had any issues at all. His family love me and my family adore him. We are so lucky

 This is how it should be.
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Mother is s dutch, father is scottish/English, I married a Lebanese, brother married a Brazilian, sister 1 married an Australian, sister 2 married an Aboriginal. Daughters both married South Africans. Only marriage that didn’t last was the Australian. Multicultural family works.

A girl my sister knows is Australian and her husband is Chinese. Apparently in Chinese culture if you live in another country the Chinese Grandparents take the child/ren with them to China with them for a couple of years 'to learn their culture'. Is this true?

Sorry, not what the OP is asking but I thought it was really weird.

 I know several chinese-australian couples with children and this has never happened to them (although there may have been some pressure from the inlaws to do it which was refused!) However very often the Chinese inlaws come and live with the family for several months when a baby is born.
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OP I know of a family where the grandparents are demanding that the child live with them. The family have refused.
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 The MIL lived with them for 6 months when each child was born and is now trying to take the 2 year old back to China with her. So weird.
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  in some Asian cultures the grandparents or aunties might take the children for long periods of time. My friend is Malaysian and was raise by her aunty and uncle because they really liked her so her mum and dad gave her to her sister. A Chinese girl I work with was raised in a similar way.
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I didn't but my parents/family couldn't care less who I married. As long as I loved him and he loved me in return and they treated me with respect then that would be all that mattered. That being said there are some races I would stay away from. Mainly ones where the sons are 'mummy's boys' and the wife would never be good enough.

I married a white South African and even that cultural difference sometimes is too much different.

I'm 4th gen Aussie married to Tongan born in Tonga moved here with his parents when he was 2. People say nothing too us (he is a big guy) hahaha but our families couldn't be more different in some ways but are very family orientated. The only thing that I never thought of was that sometimes people don't know my kids are mine at first as we look different

 Alright, I have a question. The only reason I have the guts to ask is because this is anonymous. Is it true what they say about Island boys d**ks? Are they larger than average?
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 Wouldn't know we were married young and only slept with each other :) I haven't seen anyone else hehe he is a very tall guy though everything in proportion
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No but I did date an African and was told that luckily your grandfather is dead because he wouldn't of been accepted into the family. Like wtf!?

 Gross. I bet you have HIV now
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I married a Muslim man. We had both traditional Muslim and Aussie wedding. My family have absolutely no issue.

 Muslim isn't a race. Muslims come in all races and you chose religion.
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 So sick of people saying muslim is a race it isn't
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 Actually, there is only one race, the human race. The OP I think means 'ethnicity' but we all know that.
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 I married a catholic and my family have no issue. See not same same...
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 Islam is a belief, like believing in the tooth fairy.
Race is the country you are from/ the country you live the life of.

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I have aboriginal children, but now married to a maori.
My siblings are weird about it though. Like why did you want black kids? Why do you like black men?
Did you only do it for the aboriginal payments?
I'm not really sure why they feel so uncomfortable about it

Both of my parents are Maltese with cousins family everyone over there. My husbands family are full on English. My daughter looks like me but with English white skin and my son looks like his father but with my olive skin. I was born here but still get racist remarks. His mother was very racist toward me in the beginning but she has learnt to accept me, my niece is now married to a man same as you and the family have accepted him immediately probably because I turned out so wonderful. 😉
It's not nice, but give them time.

OP His family took a while to get used to me but we are ok now. I did lose some so called friends who questioned why I was hanging out with the "gook".

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 Is Maltese a different race to English? Sorry about my ignorance. I only thought there was black white and Asian. probably because I only notice the obvious differences there.
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 ^^??
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 Not sure on the race thing, I was commenting on the racism aspect.
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 Maltese means from Malta. Near Italy.
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 Just darker then your white white people
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Yep I did. But my family never said anything. They were happy I was happy, they couldn't give a toss who my partner was as long as they were good to me and I was happy. Tick, and tick.
There have been a few cultural hiccups with both of us, but otherwise nothing else comes into it :)

My family and friends are fine, it is the older generation of his family that are the problem, they only speak their native language when they are around each other and because I speak english it doesn't matter if I am speaking I will be interrupted constantly, they also refuse to speak to our young child in english, apparently it is more important that he learns their language before he learns the language of the country he was born in.

OP We have actually requested that my husband's family only speak to our children in Mandarin. We want them to be fluent in both languages. We only speak English at home because I don't speak Mandarin.
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 My husbands family never speak English and I learned his language.
I now speak to my kids half in his language half in English hubby only speaks in his languages

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 Ok so back story, my husband arrived in aus at four years old, english was always spoken in the house so his sister and himself would learn as quickly as possible, when I met him we lived no where near his family and he didn't really have any contact so I had never even heard him speak his native language, we had a child, he decided not to teach her his language and then just after we had our second child his mother got sick and we moved to be close to her, after my hubbies father had died his mother reverted back to using their language, our oldest child is ignored because she doesn't speak the language but they are trying to get in early with our youngest and putting it before him actually learning to speak english.
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