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Wow he did what? Buy some furniture? Who cares! We all know buying things doesn’t make you happy! Sorry I just had to say that out loud!
Honey you have put way too much pressure and stress on yourself by having these intentions to study at this time, 6months sure...but immediately? Please don’t believe the rubbish in tv that lift is so easy and super mum’s are everywhere ready to work five jobs, open a business, raise smart kids and of course go to the gym. It’s not true. Be easier on yourself and don’t worry about anyone else. You are already awesome for making such a brave decision..arguing all the time was never going to change and you have made a tough decision so that you can grow and you know it. Growing is like breaking out of an egg shell, it hurts but you release a whole new you. Take some time please,, read for fun and enjoy your life!
Starting again is always hard. And when a relationship ends you go through a kind of grieving process, which is what you’re doing now. Think about the reason you left, and think about what would make you more happy.....being surrounded by beautiful things but at the same time while living with a man who treats you poorly, or living in a rental having to build your life again, but living it in your terms and without a person telling you you’re worthless.
You are grieving the loss of the relationship and the hopes and dreams you shared. Keep your wits about you, remember the reasons you left. Typically in a breakup the woman is initially really distraught and the man seems fine and does all the things youve mentioned your ex has done. Soon (maybe 6 months, maybe a year) you will be over it and moving on, suddenly he will want you back, you will reject him, then his grieving will start. Its important you know this so you dont go back to him when he starts begging you.
Keep moving forward, look after yourself, cry your heart out and forget about studying for at least 6 months. Good luck, try to hold on to that great feeling you had once you left.
Whatever you do, don’t go back, you’ll regret that more than the challenges you’re experiencing now. Get some counselling or other support, they can provide some coping strategies to help you through. You are strong, you can do it.
You are grieving - your relationship and the hopes/dreams of a happy/healthy relationship with your ex husband have ‘died’. I’ve been through this - please just know that it will get better - be kind to yourself and take things slowly. Remind yourself of why you left and how unhappy you were for such a long time.
Well done for leaving an abusive relationship - it’s really hard and you did it!!
Babe I'd start by going to see your doctor about your emotions. You did the right thing. Of course there are always going to be some regrets but did you really want to stay in that marriage forever. You should be proud of yourself for what you've done. Maybe you don't know what you want, but at least you know what you don't want. Good luck xxx
You like being abused