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I don't think I love my husband anymore...

We have been together 10 years, 3 kids and have been through our fair share of ups and downs, though I taught we where getting there.... Then he had had an affair, we tried to figure things out but I was to to hurt at the time and I left him for about a month in which I also slept with someone else. I also have recently started taking antidepressants which he doesn't support.... Anyway after months of trying to work things out and deciding stay together ... i suddenly don't feel anything for him.... I don't know what to do? What to say? Any suggestions to feel again would be great?


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Try seperate bedrooms. Date each other again, start fresh and act like strangers. We change so much as we grow. Maybe getting to know each other aND both putting in the effort like the beginning will help. Worked for us.

I feel like this some times and none of us have cheated. I think the daily grind of like and work and lack of a holiday can take its toll. Before you run off, consider giving it some time and talk about everything that is bothering you. Maybe the cheating is the worst of a list of things that were wrong before the cheating.

You have made the decision to stay together, don't turn your back on that decision or the strength it takes to make that decision. Sometimes it takes a stronger person to hang around & ensure the tough times than to walk away. To truly forgive, you need I try to put it behind you. I know it is hard, I have been there too, but it is possible to "get over it". Counselling may help, as an individual & together. Try to focus on the good things, the things that made you fall in love with him in the first place. Spend time, as much time together as you can, as a family & as a couple. You need to have strength, courage & endurance to make it work, don't underestimate the strength of love. Remember how you used to love him & you can rekindle the fire. Love can conquer all!

I have to say I can really relate to you. I am in this same situation, we have been together for 24 years married 15. I can't tell you how many nites and days I cry and pray that I can love him the way I should and get pass what happened. Living a lie is not the answer nor fair to either of u yet I still can't bring myself to walk away. I pray u find what u seek and find strength to go thru what ever you decide.

I am going through same, without cheating part. I left him for a few weeks in 2011 and I fell back in love with him and we had a son, and everything was fine for a while. But now I know it won't work and I don't feel in love anymore. If the negative feelings are there, it means something.

Sounds identical to my story. I took him back and 3 years later he cheated again and now I've lost all feelings and feel stupid for staying and wasting 3 years. Now I'm having trouble trying to get him to leave cause he's just so damn comfortable in my house. I'm trying to do it nicely for the kids. Don't want them to see us fighting. Do what u think is best for your situation. Good luck

Sometimes I feel I don't feel like I used to about my husband before his affair either. But life is comfortable I guess I don't want to be divorced and I wanted a family. I always joke with him better the devil you know? But I'm not really joking 😂

 We did separate for awhile. And I had plenty of 'options' shall we say but just couldn't be bothered going down that track
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To be truely honest, pack your clothes and travel. When you come back and if you still feel you want (not need) him then fight. But if you feel you don't love him then let him go and I promise you'll find someone who's better. I can say this with my hand on my heart - always follow your heart and don't be afraid. Everything will work out just fine if you just breath and take babysteps, and follow your heart. Hugs and good luck.

If you have no feelings for him you need to leave because your feelings won't change and you will be unhappy. I wouldn't go back to someone who cheated on me I wouldn't I've them the time or day to be honest but that's my thought. you can get therapy but seriously it's not going to change how you feel you will have trait issues and also be worrying who he's with and all. Why put all the pressure on yourself.