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I lie to my husband and say I don't wee in the shower. I do. Every time.

 Me too.

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 Gross.
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 I havent lied about it. Hes never asked but i do too
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So okay, there has been at least 3 people who have confided in me that theyve wanted to commit suicide. And I've been there for them. Ive held their hand and cuddled them and let them air their grief. Not saying I saved their lives, but I think I helped them once they'd made the choice not to end it. I think once they realised they didn't have to suffer alone, was conveniently the same time I was still there for them showing them how great they are.

 You made me smile. You are a wonderful person. Don't stop being who you are ever because you have helped them. I wish I had someone to talk to when I felt like that.
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I ended a friendship because of how she treats her children. It was barbaric listening to them sleep 'train' at six weeks old, crying for hours.

 I think teaching your kids how to sleep is one of the best things you can do for them. I don't get mothers who say shit like this when clearly their kids are toddler aged and don't sleep still. That's stupid and does more harm
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 6wks is too young. Mine sleeps through, never did cio. There are such better ways to teach. I don't understand barbaric dark age methods...
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Everyone thinks ive had a lot of sexual partners because guys where always after me. I never denied it but the truth is ive only been with my partner of 6 years he is the only one that knows the truth. Its a special little secret.

 Don't worry about what everyone else is thinking. U and ur partner know the truth and that's all that matters
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One day, after train services had been cancelled in a big storm, a few other people were waiting for a cab. My phone battery was dead so I couldn't call for a lift to get me from the station. A couple of Indian guys asked me where I was headed, and they said they were going near there too, and that we could share a cab. Just wanting to get home, I agreed. A cab showed up, and we got in. After a few minutes, I realised that the cab driver was friends with the two Indian guys. The driver took us through weird streets and in unfamiliar areas. I asked where we were going, and he said 'oh, just taking the back streets,' whilst talking in their language to each other. I was terrified that I was going to get raped. i was dropped off at the right place and nothing happened, but I have never been so scared in my life and I have never told anyone because of course they would say 'how could you have been so stupid?' And I agree.. I don't know what I was thinking that day.

 You saw the kindness in people, it doesn't always work out but it isn't a bad trait to have. It isn't stupid.
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That I daydream about cutting my hair really short, dying it something outrageous like pink, and get on a plane and run away to a particular city without telling anyone. I have wanted to do it for as long as I wanted, just to try. But I could never actually make my family suffer for my own selfish reasons.

 
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I had an emotional affair. My husband knows. But he doesn't know that it went further. Not sex or oral or anything but further. Kissing. Meeting. I feel sick about it everyday. My other secret is that I saw a counsellor about it. No one knows. Except hubby.

 Everyone makes mistakes. Your human xox
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 Exactly the same here except my husband doesn't know. I don't regret it as it got me through a difficult period. Glad it didn't go further though.
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 Same and I don't feel so bad, maybe i should. Things were so bad at home and we needed each other for different reasons. We actually had the most fun without doing the deed. Our lives improved/changed, he moved away but still goes out with my husband occasionally which is weird but I don't think he will say anything.
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That I sing my husbands praises in public, but truly can't stand him anymore, he literally repulses me.
He cheated on me with men, we've worked through it. But now I don't even find him sexually attactive anymore.
I am disappointed because I took our vows as being sacred. Now I just don't know what to believe.

 My husband cheated (full on affair really) on me too, midlife crisis. No one knows. I talk proudly of him too. I'm working thru it too, on my own. Only had a couple MC sessions, he doesn't want to talk about it anymore, we barely talked about it, me internalising the betrayal & sorting my feelings, when i was ready, he shut it down. He doesn't 'get' how devastatly heart & soul crushing his affair was for me. I'm having difficulty fully trusting him. I still love him, but hate him at times too. I have difficulty with intimacy, it's hard to get in the mood & 'let go' with the ultimate betrayal hanging over my head. I realise marriage needs effort, i took my vows seriously. I choose to stay, but I will never feel the same closeness & love for my husband again. That makes me sad, although I am hopeful for our future.
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That I think I have depression but I'm too ashamed to admit it to anyone or seek help.

 I suffered for over 7 years before I fully admitted it to my mum. She was absolutely heartbroken that I couldn't confide in her. She has done so much research and really showed me how much she cares. Telling her was the best thing I ever did for myself. please get help.
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 Me too. I have always thought it's about "positive thinking" and I just need to get over it. But I cry for days, in front of my kids/husband. But keep telling myself I'm fine. I'm just tired. I'm scared it is depression.
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My husband wasn't ready for a baby, but I was. So I stopped taking by birth control and now we have a wonderful 5 year old. I don't regret it one bit.

 I did that too
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I believe my friends boyfriend spiked my drink. We had sex on a pathway in a back street. I felt like i couldnt move. Have never told anyone because i was 17 & should have known better than to trust someone to get me a drink, not to mention what was a 17 year old at a party 4.
I thought everyone would say i asked for it.
But looking back on it now being an adult, he rapped me:(

 :(
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I can lick my own nipples...

 Me too
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I used to cut myself in high school. No body knows accept my husband coz he's seen the scars on my legs. I still feel like cutting a lot but I'm scared my kids would see the cuts.

 I'm the same. Only reason I don't is I don't want my kids to see cuts over me and think it's normal
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 I'm the same, I used to cut on my legs, met hubby young and stopped then and he still checks up on every bruise I get worried that I did them.. ( maybe sometimes..) but God I still think of doing it all the time, just don't want kids or hubby to know, when I'm really upset I think about smashing a glass while I'm washing up so it looks like an accident.. people think it's a phase or something when your young but it was how I let out so much pain and didn't kill myself.. haha bit fu***d up I guess 🤪

and my daughter saw them once.. I said they were stretch marks (I have some deep tiger stripes and other stretch marks so she didn't question me..) so the guilt of that stops me..

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I was happy when I found out my husband was cheating on me because I wanted out of the marriage but didn't have the courage to end it. Him cheating on me gave me the excuse to end the marriage without looking like the bad guy..instead people felt sorry for me and I didn't correct them and tell them not to. I'd had enough of the violence that no one knew was happening and to this day no one knows.

That my husband is horrible, lazy, abusive and everyone thinks he's a grad dad and husband coz I don't say anything bad about him to anyone, but he's different around others than behind closed doors. I just don't have the money to leave.

 Mine too. I feel like my life is fake. I have the money to leave but hate the thought of not having access to my kids 24/7.
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 Starting hiding some money every week until you have enough to leave
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 There is always a way, need to see things from a different perspective. Like someone before me mentioned, start planning and saving money. You need to plan and get out of there, it will not do you any good. You can do it, just need to believe in yourself.
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 I am in a similar situation.
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 I was in the same situation. Finally left him and now everyone keeps pushing me to give it another go because we were such a 'perfect little family'...no one knows what goes on behind closed doors...
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