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He sounds like a totally shady guy. I'm not sure about any other the other advice on here - umm what?! I think people don't take pot seriously.
I was with someone who smoked it was like being with someone who was schizophrenic. They were unpredictable. Do you want this along with drinking issues around your daughter? Honestly until he grows up I would squash the plans of moving in together sounds like a bad idea to me. Get you own apartment or stay with your folks, that way you still control the environment.
Omg get out of the whole mess right now, if not sooner. Think of your precious girl and what she will be witnessing in the most formative years of her life. No man is worth that. No man.
I’ve been with my pot smoking husband for 17 years now. Right from the beginning he told me he would quit and it was only a social thing. Then I moved in with him and his house mate his excuse was his housemate smoked it. I wanted to get rid of the housemate but we needed the extra rent money. Every time the conversation came up he would lie. Over the years he has gone through highs and lows he only confessed to me a few years ago that he has always been a regular user and never had intentions of quitting. I should have left then but I didn’t. Since he was honest I’m more in tune with his mood swings when he can’t get marijuana which has put less strain on our relationship.
I understand your frustrations..
Drug addiction is hard to break, my cousin has gone through this although his was alot worse (ice). Instead of going in hot headed try a different approach. Say you understand how hard it will be for him to quit, you will help him, support him, go with him to meetings etc. He needs to know he has support. And if you don't want too that's up to you, but then you need to leave.
While I can understand your pain as I just left my husband of 7 years over an oxycodone addiction which became violent and literally began swallowing everything in our house. If he is trying and doing then give him a chance. If he isn't changing and you're unhappy leave
I think you need to relax. He's wanting to be with you and your child. Don't let your fears get in the way of your life.
Trust me, I've been there. It's pot. He's not unreasonable to indulge.
Weed is a herb
Leave him alone
Smoke it and will relax you